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Avoid Mental Masturbation

“For every 1 hour reading material, spend at least 2 hours in field.”
Brad P

If you’re not doing this, from this day you do it. Even if it’s 2 hours walking around a shopping mall doing “eye contact” experiments. Be strict, at least 2 hours for every 1 reading/watching.

Why?

Because otherwise all this shit is just entertainment to you… nothing more.

You cannot progress by reading and watching… there is a saying in Buddhism that the mastery is in the practice.

You must participate, you must act… there is no other way to learn properly. Things like kino, calibration, eye contact, vibing… these things can NOT be learning through watching and reading. You must practice… a lot.

Split it down even further…

Practice what you want to Improve

“When a noob is learning to become a carpenter in the workshop, the first thing they do is give him a plank of wood and a box of nails and ask him to keep nailing the nails into the plank until there is no visible wood left.

The next day the apprentice has a good feel for the hammer, the weight of the strike, how to correct nails which have entered the wood at a bad angle, etc.”
Mankite

This principle is identical in PU. If you need to learn how to tell jokes – tell a joke in every set. With analysis your progress will be faster still, but even with no analysis at all your emotional circuitry will auto-correct and you will get better at it just through the process.

Try learning how to be amazing joke-teller without telling any jokes in the process…

Not possible, no matter how many books you read.

Practice doesn’t have to be in field!

Although infield practice is crucial… not all practice has to be in field.

Here’s five examples of practice which can be done out of field:

1) Meditation
2) Practicing facial expressions in mirror
3) Practicing dance moves
4) Practicing massage
5) Voice exercises

What’s the moral?

Become more pragmatic!

RagsToRiches

This is an area I have a sick fascination with… in-fact I have been obsessed with the feeling of horniness my whole life.

There’s something incredibly appealing about walking around the city centre in the hot sun in a total haze of raging horniness – completely unable to think of anything but sexual thoughts.

Whether this is good for your game or not is debately. Personally I say yes, it’s awesome for your game. But I can understand why people may argue otherwise.

Regardless of the game benefits there are definite other benefits. Here’s two:

1) It feels totally amazing

2) It makes you think about sexual stuff all day

Here’s a run-down of the methods I’ve used to increase horniness and what I think about them.

Heavy lifting/physical fitness

Basically heavy-lifting to build muscle – max of 9 reps, if you can do more than 9 reps then it’s not heavy lifting and you need more weight.

Also separately – cardio which breaks through your second wind.

Has had a definite noticeable effect – particularly in the intensity of the wildness of my horniness, not necessarily the positive feeling itself.

Effectiveness – 6/10

Zinc, Magnesium, and Vit D

Take regularly just over RDA of all these things – supposedly maximises testosterone and minimises cortisol.

Honestly I’ve never been able to measure the effect of this, so no idea if these supplements are effective. I take them anyway.

Effectiveness – ?

Forcing Sexual Thoughts

Just start thinking about the shit that turns you on, but do it like once an hour. Set an hour-by-hour alarm on your phone/watch and every time it pings think about super-horny shit.

This method is particularly effective when combined with goat-weed or abstention style horniness rages.

Effectiveness – 7/10

Oysters and muscles

Tried on several occasions – unimpressed. No noticable effects – it’s a myth IMO. Any effect is placebo or just from sensation of eating slipery food.

Effectiveness - 2/10 

High-strength Garlic Pills – 5,000 mg

Forget odourless they are useless – you need to take odoured.

Take one or two when you know you do not need to smell nice, because the garlic will come out in your sweat for the next 12 hours.

Effects are basically increased occurrence and strength of erections – but actually horniness feeling/sensation does not feel better.

I tend to take them when I’m not going out, just to clear up the blood vessels.

Effectiveness – 6/10

Abstention from Masturbation

This is totally wild – only problem for me is I am a sucker for orgasms. But after 3-4 days things start to get insane in terms of horniness levels: feeling/sensations get totally maxed out, erections increase, etc.

Basically the most effective option.

Effectiveness – 10/10

Abstention from Orgasm

Masturbating is allowed – but no orgasms. For me this is not as effective as the above, I have a friend who claims it is MORE effective. I think where I go wrong is perhaps getting a little TOO CLOSE to the point of no return, which costs me in horniness gain.

Still – it’s still a lot better than banging one out three times a day.

Effectiveness – 7/10

Horny Goat Weed and Ginko

This stuff is truly amazing. Forget the 1-2 pills a day they recommend, you won’t really notice it, take 7-10 pills, the effect is outstanding. Complete horny obsession for 2-3 hours, rushing blood, and very strong feeling of wildness. I was really impressed with this “ancient Chinese herb” and I recommend any horniness fans give it a go.

I recommend simply supplements (google it) if you want to get this stuff, it’s cheap and effective. Just don’t over-do it – special occasions only.

Effectiveness – 9/10

Alright! PARTY time!!!!!!!!

RagsToRich

A large number of the people who find the community were not doing too great for themselves when they found it – me, for one.

I was without style, unemployed, living in a tip, chain smoking, over-weight, only a handful of low-status friends, etc.

The mistake is to then dive right into the PUA stuff; start learning about and practicing approaching, openers, kino etc.

But you’re not ready for that – if YOU are new and YOU do not have your life in order then work on that first.

Techniques are useless if your voice is so unused that you sound like Mickey Mouse, and your pastie white skin is reflecting the club lights right into HB9GetAwayFromMe’s look of disgust.

Do yourself a favour and sort your life out first!

Health

Start eating a well balanced diet particularly high on fish, nuts, and berries. Consider taking some supplements for the vits you are most likely to be deficient in – around 70% of people are deficient in magnesium. Consider Zinc also to maximise testosterone production – and vitamin D tablets in the dark winter months.

If you’re particularly pastie – get some sun. If you can’t, get on a sun bed – just a light dose is fine.

Take up a physical hobby – preferably a regular team sport or a martial art. The Gym will work too, but there are many other benefits to martial arts such as confidence, voice projection, mental discipline, etc. Why not maximise your time?

Start washing regularly for god sake. One-two showers a day, clean thoroughly, wear nice smelling products. Every bit of hair on your body should be either trimmed or shaved, nowhere should it be “left to nature” unless you’re going for a ragged head hair/beard joke/look. Brush your teeth 3 times a day, use mouth wash, and chew gum after consuming things likely to cause bad breath – bad breath is a NUCLEAR set killer.

Quit Smoking. End of. You can do it. I did.

Style

There’s tons of articles on style already so I don’t want to dwell on it. Basically find some celebs you like, find loads of pics of them, and get “inspired” by their style. Buy clothes which FIT well.

Career

Get a job, then get a better job, then get a better job. If you are unhappy with your current job, start looking for a new one TODAY. You need to be a positive person in your work environment – it’s a crucial part of your psychological health as much as anything else. But also women have a 6th sense for this kind of shit. If you hate your 2-bit job women will smell you a mile off and run for the hills.

I was unemployed when I found the community. I since found a job and then changed jobs three times, each time increasing my salary and responsibility.

Communicative Expressiveness

Take 5-10 minutes a day to do some voice exercises, focus on VOICE STRENGTH at first. FORGET “Booming” voice, that’s bull anyway. Work on a STRONG TONALITY… ultimately high-pitched and vibrant is way more attractive and a fake-boomy voice.

Shout as LOUD as you can for 5-10 minutes a day… woop, howl, work-out some exercises or google them whatever… get a job where you talk a lot, talk a lot to your friends etc.. start going to loud clubs and shouting instead of whispering.. your voice will get a lot better in a relatively short time.

Spend another 5-10 minutes in-frontof the mirror… communicate with yourself… this is an awesome technique for body-language and facial expressiveness. Do this right after watching some alpha films and you’ll find yourself able to practice some new expressions – girls notice this shit big-time. IF you’re good at communicating in this way it says – “I’m a cool guy, I communicate A LOT.”

Friends

DITCH all the friends who do not support your self-development… I mean TOTALLY cut them off: delete off face-book, delete number, ditch them – they are gone from your life.

Make new ones… martial arts, new job, game dudes if necessary, expand social circle… always AIM to make friends with the coolest guys and the guys who are getting girls. Always be on the lookout to expand your social circle. In one year you can go form having 2-3 friends, to have 50+ with a circle of 10ish “best-friends”.

Done all that? Alright, you’re ready to go pull now. 

RagsToRich

GUARENTEED RESULTS IN 30 DAYS!!!

SEX WITH MODELS IN LESS THAN 3 MONTHS!!

IN JUST ONE YEAR YOUR LIFE WILL BE TRANSFORMED INTO YOUR OWN PERSONAL PARIDISE!!

There is only one magic pill in this game…

A shit-load of serious effort!

You’re not in this for days, weeks, or months – you’re in it for years. This is a big life changing area and to get the BIG results you have to treat it as such.

Unless you’re already having pretty decent success with women – lots of kisses, a lay every other month, etc… then you should have no delusions about how long and how hard you’re going to have to go into this area to get to where you want to be.

Noone masters this game in weeks, or months. It takes years of serious dedication. Take Sleazyof mASF for example who now gets incredible rock-star style club lays several times a month. It took him about 18 months of going out 3-7 nights a week, sober every time, to go from a guy who gets a k-close 8/10 nights, to where he is now.

That is a lot of effort, a lot of time, and he’s coming from a relatively very-high starting point compared to where many of us start from.

Be prepared for the long haul.

Mini-guide: Preparation for the Long Haul

First create a deep powerful sense of motivation. Obsess about your goals, truly discover the reasons why you want to become a master of seduction, and make sure those reasons are firming implanted in your mind. You will need absolute determination in order to go through the challenges ahead – so create that determination from a very solid sense of what it is you want. This goal will now become the primary focus of your existence – so be prepared to justify strongly your reasons for putting huge amounts of effort into your self-improvement.

Put the time in field, make the time count, and have a good time while you’re going it. 1-2 nights a week will not cut it if you want serious progress, it’s 3-7. When you’re in field you should be approaching, if you’re not approaching at all you need to focus everything you have on approaching. You also have to have a good time – emotional health plus infield state is too important not too. If you’re not having a good time, work out how to have a good time and make sure you have one. Quick suggestions – meditation, NLP (model someone who’s a party-animal), do high energy shit, find some cool wings who you enjoy hanging around with.

When it seems like progress is slow, think about all the things you can do now that you never used to be able to. Then reflect on the problems you were facing 6-3 months ago, notice how they are less-advanced than the ones you are facing now. Also, remember this – http://www.northenglandlair.com/blog/the-secret-of-human-bipolarness/

Quick Tip: The Rare Successful – The Common Failures

I have found no area of life more challenging than this one – this is the ultimate challenge; which encompasses self-development, style, career, social interactions, social dynamics, fitness, etc etc…

For many many years there have been self-help books on how to become very rich – yet for all the millions who have read them only a very small number become successful. You could read those books today, work very hard, and be successful with money – that is the world we live in.

This area is just like that.

Are you going to be one of the few who really does make it, getting the success with chicks that you want, or are you going to be just another dude who read a bunch of material, did a bunch of challenges, indulged in self-challenge, but didn’t work hard enough to make it happen?

RagsToRiches

It’s not always smooth running… occasionally you have a hiccup.

You have a half-arsed night out with a handful of sets, maybe lethargic reactions and maybe no closes. Afterwards you may think about all the opportunities you should have taken up, all the things you know you can do but for some reason on that night did not. Maybe you even realise later you had passed up an easy shot at a lay which you know you could have secured with skills you have displayed on other nights; but on that night things just weren’t clicking, and you just weren’t on…

When you have a night or two like this it’s not just a case of taking away what areas of improvement you can, realising where you could have done something different or better, etc. There’s more at work here than just technique… there’s a naturally flowing PUA form – sometimes you’re on, sometimes you’re not. The importance of understanding this is to know that a bad night is just a one off, and that relatively poor nights are just bound to happen. There are two varying factors which affect this.

The first is your base emotional state. I don’t know anyone who doesn’t, to varying degrees, have a fluctuating emotional state – I call it human bipolarness. Literally everyone I know has a few days when they don’t feel as great as usual, and other days when they feel totally on top of the world. This doesn’t just apply to PUAs, or even self-development enthusiast, this is even the case for chodes, normal people, etc. Even people whose life remains the same day after day after year still have these peaks and troughs in emotional state. So it’s important to realise that if you’re having an off night, or maybe have just been feeling down for a day or two, it’s possibly just a natural fluctuation that you’ll come firing out the other side of imminently.

There’s a number of things you can do to minimise the troughs in this regard, some of which you may want to consider are:

1)      Regular exercise
2)      Keeping in good shape
3)      Eating a healthy balanced diet ensuring no deficiencies particularly in things like Vit D, Zinc, Mag.
4)      Mindfulness Meditation
5)      Cleanliness (surroundings and personal hygiene)
6)      Cut drug/drink intake; including illegal drugs, minimising caffeine, alcohol, quitting smoking, etc.

The second major cause of performance fluctuations is experienced due to a function of how humans perform when learning to master any particular area. The journey to mastery is not a straight line of progress; it’s a curvy peak and trough style graph. This is why perseverance is held in such regard with highly successful people, because it will be at a time when you are apparently doing worse than you were previously that suddenly your ability will shoot through to the next level. Many highly successful businessmen experienced a time of relative poor performance just before they had the defining success of their careers.

The only solution to this kind of fluctuation is perseverance. It is simply a quality of the human condition that your ability level will fluctuate as you take on new information and apply that information in field.

Understanding of this isn’t really that important, the only important thing is to realise that improvement is not an ever-growing graph. You have ups and downs, so be ready for them: whenever you feel that progress has been slow, or that things haven’t been working out for the best, that’s the time to really dig in, to push like hell, and to come catapulting out the other side.

RagsToRiches

by Shezz

JUST A PIECE OF MY MIND – A TESTIMONY IF YOU WILL

MOULD YOUR MINDSET AND BE THAT PRIZE…

There is one thing in life that cannot be changed by having millions of dollars or pounds

One thing that only being myself and using my own time can change to become a more socially developed man.

Sure if i was ugly and had billions of dollars in my account – i would have a facelift

If i was fat – i would have liposuction

If i had raggy clothes – id buy the clothes fit for a king.

But one thing cannot be changed by anything except a strong character and utter determination – Mindset.

Many examples and articles have been written on the subject – this may be just one of those articles – but before i made myself the person i am today – my outloom on life was somewhat abysmal.

My world was my bedroom – i would venture out to play sports, go to the gym – but i would hardly ever talk to girls – i was brought up with a Mindset that had me beleive that bringing a girl home may upset my mum or dad – sounds crazy, but i would never try to mack on any girls whatsoever – i didnt go out drinking or partying and my confidence around women was lower then whale dung.

I started work about 2 years ago and realised that for me to get anywhere in this world i would have to change my Mindset and outlook on the world. In all honesty im a good looking guy – 8 or 9 and lots of girls would come upto me and talk – im an intelligent kid – i can hold a mature conversation with the directors and chairman at my workplace easy – but before – even saying hello to a girl felt like i was about to put my life on the line.

Of course writing this now makes me understand just how silly i was being back there – not being confident and talking to a lady fluently dosnt make you look like that shy guy that women think is cute – it makes you look like an idiot.

If you were talking to a man – and all he could do was look at the floor and mumble, you would think that you were talking to a damn clown – youd walk away and chances are you wouldnt speak to him again.

So alas! The time came when i decided enough was enough, this skin that i was wearing, this fungus that had taken over my brain the past 16 years had to be exterminated – i had to get a life – but where to start??

Where to start indeed?…………Party my freind excalims – are you coming – there will be loads of girls there! and beer!

This was it – my opportunity to start to mature into a Socially mature man.

I did a lot of thinking before that party – and the two days that i used wisely – put my life into perspective.

There are people in the world who have no water, no food, no shoes or clothes, no home, no family, some are blind, some deaf, some scarred, disfigured, maimed, some morbidly obese, some with eating disorders, some people have disease – that puts there life in doubt from day to day – yet one thing interconnects all of these people together – the desire for pleasure.

No matter how far there lives have fallen, how lonely or melancholy they are feeling – one thing still drives us on – Pleaure.

The reason all of these people survive and drive onwards is because of there Mindset – sure a fat, disfigured person can look in the mirror and see a inhumane, sorry sight who ladies would not look twice at – but my altering his mind – he could change his life forever. Think about your self for a moment and what women are in your range.

Do you have any of the aforementioned symptoms – or are you a good looking, freindly, but socially inept person.

One thing that i deliberately did not mention was the reason that makes going out there and getting the HB’s into your life.

It is the one thing that i think of when i go out each day – people are people, unless they are disfigured or challenged – they have eyes, legs, ears, noses, arms, mouths, hearts and brains – we use all of these things everyday of our lifes – but which ones do we underuse the most?

When it comes to women a lot of guys dont use their brains which means that the words coming out of their mouths are drivvle. Think about it – your attempting to talk to lady, but yet you feel like an idiot! Your scared! Unsure of what she thinks of you – but in reality the mere fact that you are even talking to her as differentiated you from most men that have looked at her today.

Do you get hot and flustered when you talk to your mother? (i seriously hope not or you need help)

NO – because you know that she dosnt think your a weirdo, idiot, ugly, fat, – she may infact think all of these things about you (slim chance) but the mere fact that you think, therefore your Mindset takes over your body and states that this women – your mother is just a person in the world who needs to be talked to!

Everyone in the world needs to be talked to, imagine a world where everyone didnt have a mouth, scary thought – imagine if tomorrow – you were in a serious accident which ripped away your power of speech or even worse your life.

This is what i thought of for those two days, people all over the world, no matter what race, religion, height, weight, looks, hair colour have a voice that needs to be heard – its simple.

I nearly burst into laughter thinking about how scared i was to open my mouth and try to chat to a girl, thinking about how scared i was to tell my parents i had a girlfriend. Hell those two guys must have gone at it like rabbits in there younger days – or i wouldnt be here!

If your shy, unconfident or have any other feelings of frustration that prevents you from talking, dating and laying women then it is time to change your Mindset.

Its not about What you are, Its Who you are – you could be a race care driver – but if you had no confidence or lacked a positive attitude you will always finish last or even worse crash.

Your outlook can be changed in a minute – just THINK! How simple life with women can be if you change your mindset – a lot of my friends who have been laying chicks for years often ask me for advice on how i am so confident – what do i tell them?

I am a person who loves life, loves to talk and socialise with people – because thats what life is about.

Men and Women are LIFE! If there wasnt any people on the planet then there would be no life (micro organisms excluded).

The development of the world is not through technology, it is through the people that invent, create and absorb and use information gathered through the power of speech.

I often see men scowling at ugly, fat, disfigured, older men attemting to chat up young ladies

Young Man: look at that idiot – what has he got that i havent? Stupid idiot!

ME: Hes got confidence, hes got motivation, hes got ballz and hes got a Mindset that states to him that life is meant to be enjoyed – while your standing there scowling – you could be furthering yourself socially by talking to that women over there – why else would they come to the bars in a short skirt and bra?

Young man: Yea – id give her a right bonking.

Me: Yes you would, but you wont!

YM: Why the hell not?

Me: Well go talk to her then!

YM: I will later.

Me: Theres no better time than the present, if not now…when!!!???

Through years and years and years of borrowed knowledge we devise pockets of thoughts that constantly run through our minds, jumping from one thought to the next, preventing us from living in the real world.

Most people today are living in the mind like they are the mind or like the mind is them – when actually the mind is like the body – simply a tool. I have come to the conclusion that we are not the mind because we can witness are own thoughts and to witness your own dreams and thoughts then you must be separate from your mind – because you can only witness that which you are not.

Stop living in a dreamworld, stop living in the past, stop thinking about the future, live in the present or you wont live at all – because soon the present which we are in now will become memories and regrets and the future dreams will become the unfruitioned present – no different from what you are living in now

Your life will become a circle of lost hopes, bitter thoughts and lack of confidence – where the old, fat, scarred guys get the girls and you get your right hand.

Open Your eyes, open your heart and most importantly open your mind and mouth – use the gift that you have been given – theres no reason whatsoever why you cant get the girl of your dreams – except the cloud of doubt that hovers over your Mindset.
Changing your Mindset to become the PRIZE!!!
What do you think of when the word pricelessness pops up? Maybe its the Mona Lisa? Maybe it is the statue of the Thinker? Maybe it is a goose that lays golden eggs – with diamonds for yolk?

All of these things ‘could’ be classed as priceless – Could.

However while many men and women roam the planet searching desperately for their dream lover, dream car, dream necklace, dream home – their dreams hardly ever materialise – infact many a person will go through their whole life living a dream – they will die in a figment of their own imagination.

But what if you already possessed the most priceless object in the world, but yet you always overlook its potential, failing to open it to the fact that one day, in one minute you could wake up and realise that your dream has come true.

An everlasting cycle of wants, needs, greed and inhumane like activities veil our mind and help into peceiving the real world in which we live as some kind of sick cartoon, socialisation and bonding with the own members of our race as become an afterthought in a world plagued with selfishness and our own personal development – but when we actually try to develop ourselves – is that what we are really doing?

A lot has been said and written down in regards to personal fitness – an i am an avid beleiver in this – nothing beats a good sports session or workout, However – why is nothing done to improve the way we want to convey ourselves to other people – more importantly on this site – women?

The main percentage of guys coming on to the community usually start with a query entitled:

How do i talk to women?

Good conversation ideas anyone?

How do i make good, stimulating conversation with girls?

The list is endless!

But there is no article that anyone, anywhere at anytime can write to tell someone how to speak to women – Not even this one.

The person who is asking for help must himself look deep within his own heart, his own mind and find his own inner passion for life and for living it – women and every other thing will then fall into place. If a man lives his life without purpose, without a passion then he is living a lie, his life is a falsification of what could infact be a dream, but a dream that CAN be touched.

What do you do when you talk to a girl?

Fill in blank (in your mind- speak it out loud) ………………………….

You become nervous?
Welt up?
get flustered?
Hot?
Blabber?
Turn into a fool?
Think your a clown?

Analyse the glances of every women that talks to you – your thinking:

AFC: Oh no – shes looking at my hair – it must be bad
DJ: Yeaa – shes looking at my hair – and why wouldnt she?

AFC: Whys she staring at my face? Do i have a zit? oh no!
DJ: Thats it baby – check out the money maker!

AFC: She dosnt like me – she keeps looking away!
DJ: Whats up baby – my looks intimidate you?

At the end of the day – you can log onto your computers and search to your hearts content for tips on seduction, tips on romance, tips on conversation, tips on flirting – but the only real way to learn is to use the priceless material that you have been given.

Your life and the body that you live it in.

Stop trying to be something your not – we on this website collectively try to be Don Juan – the epic 16,000 line poem Don Juan was written by Byron – would people think you were foolish if you tried to live like Lord Byron?

Of course they would – they would think you were raving mad – becuase you have a life of your own to lead.

You cannot be something your not, you cant witness yourself, you can only be yourself – thats why you cant see your self without the aid of a mirrored surface.

But even those that realise that they are themselves and that they should lead their own lives still fall foul to the constant surge of non-stop thoughts that plague our mind on a daily basis.

These thoughts are the fantastical funghi that initiates the barrier that keeps us in Dream-World and stops us from being aware of our lives that we are living presently, because to us – our mind does not exist in the present world. The mind splits everything up into different segmentations.

Eg – The women that we see on a daily basis are no longer looked upon as reachable objects – for the average male – the untapped male – the male without a passion -they are dreams, that unfortunatley will never come true. But they can, and if the inner man, the man with a life is touched then they will.

Lots of articles are written but they arent required – i may sound like an hypocrite at this moment – but that is my view – my life is lived in the present, memories cannot be erased – and nor should they be, but they should not be a substitute for life. dreams cannot be stopped emerging and nor should they – but they too should feature only at times when the life you live now has become so good – that any dream could happen at this moment.

For many men in the community, no – for all the men – there dream is to have the dream women – many beleive they can – those are the ones that will and do get the women that they feel is a dream – but dreams evolve and so do the looks of women – so as the women evolve – our dreams are ensized by the thought of what we can have next.

However – while these men will and do get the women – more men wont and dont get them.

They are the ones that live life like a chore, no purpose and no passion when in there hearts this passion just needs to be ignited

Endless reading on these types of sites can and are beneficial – but at the end of the day – it is all words.

You can revise for an exam from the greatest literature in the world, but unless you digest that information and then divulge it – failure looms.

Think about your lives or better yet – your li(v)es – a constant blur of aesthetically pleasing, middle class men going about their lives like puppets – Women are there to be had – its so simple taht it pains me to write this type of stuff when its just so goddamn simple.

the only reason you make it hard to approach and date women is because of the cowardice from within, your evil self that takes over and tells you that you ae inferior -life is there to be lived so live it.

In London, Pakistan and NYC over the past several years – many peoples lives were taken through acts of atrocity and utter devastation – at least one person who lost there life im betting was living a lie – and was thinking that the dream he had of the lady at his office would come true tomorrow – not today – there always tomorrow – now he wont get that chance.

But you have – today, now – if there is someone that you like, love or wish to go out with – Tell them – dont ask like a child – you are a man – tell them your feelings -there are no tricks or magic wands – except you and your body and maybe your cheat sheet lol.

It is truly a gift – you are a gift – live life and smile – you never know whos day you are making by flashing a smile.

Dont waste your chance or your time.

Sarge On…

This article is a repost of a section of Jeff Galloway’s site, which deals with running and training. At www.jeffgalloway.com /training/beginners.html, he explains the first two of five stages of a runner; the beginner and the jogger. As I read it, I couldn’t help but be surprised at the parallels between starting running and starting PU. So I decided to copy the exert here, changing the language so that it matches our own goals. Check out Jeff’s site, it’s full of useful info, and for the final three stages (The Competitor, The Athlete and The Runner), you can check out pages 26-31 in Galloway’s Book on Running by Jeff Galloway (Shelter Publications, 1984).

The Five Stages of a PUA

The Beginner: Stage One: Making the Break
Every beginning is precarious. There you are, perched on the edge of starting something entirely new, yet there are distractions, even criticisms, that cause detours and dead ends. You want to be more confident, and better with women, but you may not realize how secure you’ve become in a sex-free world. Each time you go out to practice pick up, you encounter a new side of yourself – one that must somehow be integrated into your daily life.

There is usually a struggle within and without. The old lifestyle is there and offers security. When the energy of “beginning” wears off, it’s harder to motivate yourself to go out for that daily sarge. You’ll face a lot of obstacles at first. It’s all too easy to stop when the weather turns cold, when it rains or snows, or when you feel the persistent ache of approach anxiety before you’ve even left the house. You haven’t had to deal with these things before and the temptation to quit is strong.

Your approaching may also be threatening to your less proactive friends. Eventually, you – the beginner – and your non-PUA friends work it out. The transition period, however, can be unstable and uncomfortable for both. If you falter, the old world – comfortable in many ways – is waiting for you to slip back in. If you’re lucky enough to make new friends who share similar goals, you’ll probably find refuge in the “PUA” world while you gain your “approach security.”

Social reinforcement makes it easier to establish the approaching habit. One good approach is to find a group that meets regularly. Or you can make a pact with a friend who drags you out on bad days and vice versa. Winging and going to seminars are great opportunities to meet people.

At times you may not progress as fast as you expected. We Westerners are traditionally hyperactive and impatient. When we plant a seed, we not only want it to grow, we want it to become a tree by next week. We want results. When you start, you want to feel the psychological benefits of increased confidence. But if you push too hard, you can tire yourself out and end up quitting in frustration.

The seed of game – if you don’t crush it – will survive periods of moisture and drought. Just when it seems to be drying up, it will spring to life, rejuvenated, and propel you further down the road. Don’t be discouraged, even if you’ve stopped. Tomorrow’s another day. Many beginners stop and start again 10 or 15 times before they get the habit established. Beginners who don’t put pressure on themselves seem to have an easier time staying with it. If you simply do 3-4 approaches every other day, you’ll find yourself gently swept along in a pattern of relaxation and good feeling. Your approaching starts to become a special time for you. As you make progress you find within yourself the strength and security to keep going. At first you’re “just visiting” that special world when you go out to approach. But gradually you begin to change. You get used to the positive relaxed feeling. Your mind starts cleaning itself up, establishing a stronger frame, and your state improves. One day you find you’re addicted, and the beginner becomes a PUA.

The PUA: Stage Two – Entering the New World
The PUA feels secure with approaching. It may be hard to start each day’s approaches but, unlike the beginner, you can identify with those who are addicted. You may be intimidated by the “high achievers” – bootcamp instructors, or guys who are authoritative on the forums – but you have begun to understand the benefits of pick up and made a significant break with the old, non-sarging world. The PUAs approaches are satisfying in themselves. There is almost always a “glow” at the end of the day’s practice, a reward for the effort. If you miss a practice session you may feel guilty – a rare experience for the beginner. Beginners often complain that they’re intimidated while approaching, but PUAs find this problem decreases and then disappears as their experience increases.

Rarely does a PUA have a plan or goal. Most approach as a healthy diversion and don’t feel the need to get anything more out of it. They just get out there when they can and do what they can. Those who do feel they need a plan often think they don’t know enough to prepare one. They may pick up a few tips from a more experienced PUA, or get ideas from a forum or ebook. Unfortunately this often ends in frustration or anxiety, because such plans are not based upon the PUA’s own individual abilities and goals, but upon someone else’s.

At first you probably needed a group or at least another person for motivation and direction. As a PUA, you are a bit more independent. You’ll prefer company to sarging alone, but you’ll pick and choose your group with care. Most beginners seek anonymity within a group while PUAs often enjoy identification with a group.

As a beginner you may have attended a few lair meets or possibly a seminar. PUAs, however, mark the big events on their calendars. These are motivational stepping stones to keep the daily approaches on track. There will often be one major event in the PUA’s schedule, like the next Big NEL Meet Up Event, or a bootcamp. Although you’re not sarging to make money, or for a company, a sense of competition may begin to develop. By piecing together a growing series of successful and non-threatening sarging experiences, you begin the transition into a more sex-filled lifestyle.

There are always conditions – loss of free time, a partner dropping out, a return of old though patterns – that may stop your approaching and force you to start over again as a beginner. You may lose the motivation to keep going. A PUA will sometimes give up sarging completely, but usually will start again after an extended layoff.

For the next three stages (The Competitor, The Athlete and The Runner), please see pages 26-31 in Galloway’s Book on Running by Jeff Galloway (Shelter Publications, 1984) – you can translate these yourself!

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by Shezz

Everyone Fails. Whether it be at sports, in our jobs or with women – we all fail at some point in our lives. However, let me tell you that when i say you are going to forever banish the words ‘Fail’ and ‘Failure’ from your lexicon, i mean it…

How can one truly think, nay even dream about failing with women, it strikes me as being somewhat maddening and vaguely pathetic as to how anyone could think that ‘Failing’ to be successful around women could truly be called -’Failing’!

What do we perceive as failures – in seduction firstly:-

- Failing to have fun on a date
- Failing to approach
- Failing to be fluent in our conversations
- Failing to KINO
- Failing to maintain Eye Contact
- Failing to be fully justifiable when Complimenting
- Failing to ‘Be A Jerk’ or rather ‘Not being too nice’

Again! I say STOP! Extinguish the word FAILURE from your mindset, For you cannot fail with women, the only failure within a male to female interaction is her failure to see what a great prize you are – and take the opportunity with both hands.

ASSUME ATTRACTION!!! – YOU ARE A GREAT GUY!

Everyday, we wake up, hoping..just hoping that today will be our day, up like a lighting bolt, devour a delicious breakfast of eggs, streaky bacon, crunchy toast and a glass of orange juice as smooth as silk. We arrive at work on time to find that the boss is off sick for the week, leaving us chance to work at our own pace and happily browse away on these forums or do something else that is totally un-work related, such as throwing paper aeroplanes at female co-workers
It gets to lunch time, and outside in the courtyard you sit and eat your freshly prepared sandwich, as a beautiful woman walks past and flashes you a great smile. If only you think to yourself, if only i could get a woman like that…*sighs*

ASSUME ATTRACTION!!! – YOU ARE AN HANDSOME GUY!!!

What if you had a mindset, whereas every woman, every opportunity, every single thing that YOU truly wanted appeared easier than ever, that you could just reach out and take when you wanted to, not when Societal Programming deemed ‘correct’ or ‘proper’.
By Assuming Attraction, you can get ANYTHING you want, be that the woman of your dreams, the job of your dreams or anything else – Assume Attraction and your chance of getting what you want will increase tenfold.

ASSUME ATTRACTION!!! – YOU ARE UNIQUE!!!

What do i mean? Assume Attraction??

Do i mean ‘Assume that you are handsome’? YES!
Do i mean ‘Assume that you are capable’? YES!
Do i mean ‘Assume that you are funny’? YES!

Assume EVERYTHING that is positive, and what would truly endear you to other people!

Being Attractive is not necessarily being Handsome, Funny or Capable, being Attractive is the way you carry yourself, its the way you treat other around you, its the outlook you have on life, you are the positive one, the risk taker -the one who is unaffraid to embrace his masculinity to get what he truly wants and deserves.

ASSUME ATTRACTION!!! – YOU ARE AMAZING!!!

Take a look in the mirror, go ahead – smile, ask yourself, what woman wouldn’t even comprehend dreaming about being given the chance to spend even a millisecond of time with you in YOUR life, your life full of adventures, stories and Fun!
Women are a bonus, put here to enrich YOUR life, your life comes first – if women want to be part of it then it is upto them to prove that they are worthy of being included in the journey…

Love yourself, Why Not? How can anyone else love you if you don’t take care of who you are and love yourself first? Confidence is conveyed through the mind, and then the body – let those positive thoughts flow like a river – and Assume that Attraction!

Say it with me!

ASSUME ATTRACTION!!
ASSUME ATTRACTION!!
ASSUME ATTRACTION!!

And get what you want!

ASSUME ATTRACTION!!

And live your life to the fullest!

ASSUME ATTRACTION!!

And all the opportunities, all the enjoyable things, the luxuries, the jobs, the Women will be drawn to you!

Take that Interview by storm and GET THAT JOB!
Approach that 3set and CLOSE THOSE WOMEN!
Wake up everyday KNOWING that you are going to have a great day and that today will be just another day in YOUR great adventure…

ASSUME ATTRACTION!! -YOU ARE THE MAN!

Sarge On…

by Shezz

I look around me, the fresh cool air blows in through my window, a banana skin lies sullen on my desk, a coffee mug stain is imprinted on my table, and dozens and dozens of notes on seduction lay scattered across my bed.

I look outside, the hustle and bustle of millions of people create a whirr of thoughts and cogitation in my head, it begs of me to ask the question…

What Have I Gained From This Site and What Do We Want To Be Able To Actually Access From It?

People are simple. Yes they are – People ARE simple.

Of all the races, in all the world, in all the universe – why is it that we have still failed to recoginize the potential that lies before our eyes.

Now, we all have different meanings and view of what this ‘Potential’ actually is, for some this may be:

- “An Excellent Sex Life”
- “A fabulous Job”
- “Great Health”
- “Strong Intellect”
- “Great Charisma”
- “Exceptional Social skills”
- “Adaptation Skills”
- “To be something, anything”
- “To HAVE a life worth living”

We all have a life – thats a no brainer, but how many of us actually LIVE a life? Not many.

For the majority of us, life is one big dream – something that can be passed through and will be good until its over – but we have no power over dreams, not consciously anyhow. If we look upon a dream as a kind of natural resource flowing within us, if we liken it to a river, a river shaped by our life experience, then its flow will not be changed simply by having someone on the shore urge a new direction on it. But if the person on the shore does the work necessary to make a change in direction possible, the flow will alter as desired. The point of the analogy is that there has to be more than conscious intent to influence the flow. There has to be a genuine emotional investment

So what are you getting at?

Let me explain.

I first started browsing this site some 2 years ago, never posting and always reading – i was a keyboard jockey – i never went out and sarged, i NEVER talked to strangers – i had no reason to, why did they want to talk to me?

I remember all those times when i would be walking through a shopping mall, and i would see that fat, ugly guy walking proudly with a girl who was indescribable, she was perfect – WHOA!! She just smiled at me (quick look away, look at the ground Shezz) ahhhh shes past, oof that was close! Im glad i didnt smile at the real sexy girl….wait….what am i talking about? I would stop, and look into the mirror like window of a passing shop, why am i so scared? Why cant i look people in the eyes, or smile, or talk to girls that i like, why havent i had a girlfriend and ive just turned 17!!!

I looked at myself again – acne plagued, puppy fat, shaved head, raggy clothes – do all these things make me look bad?….yes they..NO THEY DONT!!! WHY SHOULD THEY!?!?!

I cant control Acne – But i Damn Sure can beat it!!!
I can hit the Gym
I can get some new clothes
I can stop trying to be a white rapper and grow my hair!

Onwards i charged, digesting each of Pooks posts and combining them with Anti-Dumps, Vassagos, Krassus and the like – i started my progression to Shattering My Social Barrier.

1 Year passed, in that year id made some improvement – id made out with 5 girls!!! 5!!! – id beaten my acne finally – 7 years of treatment with Acid like creams and antibiotics had left my skin clear – i started to cherish that, id hit the gym, lost the puppy fat, my hair was stylish, but over all these things – the most important thing was that id changed my mindset and Shattered My Social Barrier.

Now, of this day – i have taken great strides to becoming the man i always wanted to be, and always knew i could be!

A plethora of Girlfriends, too-many, approaches daily – as if just natural, but more than anything – my mindset has truly evolved to be that of a true Alpha-Male, sure, i take care of my looks and style – but there are always going to be better looking guys than me, this is where I and YOU truly stand out – by recognizing that LOOKS dont matter – and that INNER game truly separated the men from the boys.

KNOW WHO YOU ARE FIRST, THEN USE YOUR INNER GAME TO YOUR FULLEST.

Theres nothing better than getting the better of a great looking guy (10) who has no ballz by using your PU Skills – when you get to that stage, its just unbeleivable – i believe that is the stage where you truly start to evolve.

THE SOCIAL BARRIER

My social barrier, OUR social barrier, develops over time – we arent born with it, we natural develop it – through years of distasteful talk regarding sex and the opposite sex, we develop a social barrier that nullifies our ability to approach, talk, and control the flow of conversations with the opposite sex without becoming flustered and nervous. Everyone does, it seems that these days – becoming nervous around girls is the most common disease of all – affecting probably 95+% of the male species, but what can you do to tackle this problem.

THERE IS NO MAGIC PILL

Go ahead, read, read, read, read, read – your knowledge on seduction and your overall intelligence will improve, you’ll gain useful insight onto WHY you can’t approach women, or even say Hi to strangers in the street – EXCELLENT ISNT IT! NO! ITS NOT!

No one ever learned to be a master PUA by just reading hoodlums of pages of seduction literature….without putting in the effort to get out and use it.

Ok, ok – this is a common statement. AND SO IT SHOULD BE!!!
IT IS ‘THE’ STATEMENT!!!

There is no success, there is no SHB, there is no FB, or glorious LTR without the input, without the commitment – without the FAILURES!!!

As mystery puts it: “There is no failure, Only Feedback” – this is so true it hurts, stamp it into your brainstem, write it on your wall and get out and DO!!!

There is not enough time to sit around and watch the world go by, there isnt enough time to watch your life crumble – as you yet again fail to approach that Girl that you really like, and really feel like you could make a relationship with or have for a fvck buddy.

To take some more advice from mystery – we are put on this world to primarily survive, and to survive we must come together as a race…and replicate!! YES – HAVE SEX!!!

Can we do this, this Natural process by sitting indoors and imagining this dream, and instead – ignore the scientific theories and TAKE CONTROL OF THIS DREAM!!!

What stopping you? Yes, right now what is stopping you from standing up, walking outside and approaching the first HB that you see?

SHATTER THE SOCIAL BARRIER!!!

Each one of our lives is shrouded in a veil, this dosnt obscure our movement, our sight, our smell – it obscures our Mindset! It is the thing that stops us from carrying out everyday, friendly, HUMAN activities in a natural way.

People are shy. Yes, People are shy and scared – Wellll, i dont know that person walking towards me, i shouldnt look at her or say hi incase she just ignores me!! REALISE THIS!! PEOPLE CARE, THEY WANT TO BE NOTICED, THEY WANT TO BE SEEN AND LOVED AND SEDUCED – EVERYDAY OF THEIR LIVES, THEY WANT TO HOLD CAREERS, HAVE HOUSES, CARS, PETS, GOOD FOOD – BUT ABOVE ALL ELSE – THEY WANT TO BE HAPPY, HEALTHY AND LOVED – THEN AND THEN ONLY CAN THEY ACHIEVE SELF-ACTUALISATION THAT THEY ARE THE PERSON THEY WERE BORN TO BE.

When im in my car – I wave to everybody, i shout to girls out of the window, i sing at the top of my lungs – Does that make me a bad person? LOL

Women wake up everyday, some 2 hours earlier than they should – to apply makeup, to pick out the best outfit, to select the best perfume – in hopes that this will be the day that the guy from her office, or the kid in gym class, or the old guy in the corner of the retirement home, or that perfect man…will walk into her life, grab his ballz and make her his!

DONT WAIT – INITIATE!!!

You there! Yes you, reading this thread – let me ask you a question…wait wait….i know you might be getting tired of reading but please – look back towards the screen.

Now – You know that girl who you really like, the one that whenever you see, you get butterflys in your stomach and your throat closes up, and your heart beats a mile a minute – yea you know!

How would you feel if you saw, one day – an ugly looking dude walk upto her, talk to her and get her phone number?

EXACTLY! Whos to blame? Take a look in the mirror mate – its that guy, that chump who was too scared to talk to an harmless little girl, a women whose biggest weapons are her milk sacks hanging from her chest – Does that scare you?

We are put here for a reason, YOU are put here for a reason! Dont waste the chance that you have been given.

Everychance that you waste…is another part of your life destroyed, be that career wise, health wise or sex wise.

- Get out and do!

Try and Fail, Try and Fail and eventually you will reap the rewards of your hardwork, you will reap the rewards of LIFE.

Know what you want, Know who you are…And laugh at all those people who mocked you or are too scared to get what THEY really want in life.

Be the exception…

Enter Mr N.Egative

Lovely post, Shezz. Thumbs up!

What if she does not give me her number then? I turn back to this forum and search for another of your deep and inspiring posts about not indulging to desperation?

Nobody of us will get what he’s looking for. Slowly and painfully, maybe without even noticing it, we’re all bound to mediocrity.

We’re just lying our way out of desperation. I’m so tired of faking charme and confidence. I would like to be loved and cherished for the person I am, not the stereotyped, fake, dull Alpha-male I learned to be by reading all this propaganda.

The truth is that we’re all shallow beings. Girls and boys are quite the same about this. Love, affection and sex are not connected with intelligence or wit, neither with cocky and funny sarcarm nor with framing. It’s just an instinct, which nobody can control. This is why you cannot force nobody to love you.

I’m not saying that your post is useless Shezzler, but I’m sick and tired of all this synthetic optimism. Who said universe should be fair?

…maybe I’m a bit depressed today. It’s safe to stop here. I don’t wanna start flame-wars or such things.

Sarge on… (which means stopping people by the street and ask their number after a minute? Frenetic, shallow and useless world we live in.

But alas – Here comes the Shezz!

The crowd gasps!!!

No body ever said that Life was going to be fair! But by standing aside and watching other people live their lives. take their opportunites and yours – then it becomes a problem.

Sure, you can read all the ‘Propaganda’ that you wish to read, it will give you a quick fix of egoistical confidence, but until you step out into the real world, away from the thousands of seduction and motivation related threads – you will never progress past the point where you are faking.

Where in this post did i say anything about faking life? I never fake my life – life shouldnt be treated as one big lie, it should be lived as on giant Truth!

Love, Affection and Sex arent connected to Wit or Intelligence? I have to disagree with you here my friend, how can you say this? Depending on the type of love – you are right, but since we are here on a seduction website – then Love, Sex and Affection IS connected with Wit and Intelligence – if your saying that it isnt then i believe that you are referring to those three componentes relating to Looks?

Sure – Looks are attractive, and girls are attracted to good looking guys and vice versa – does this mean all is lost for those people who arent good looking? Hell No!!!

By developing your mind, your body and adapting to the world around you – you will become a much more attractive figure in life -as you categorically questioned – who said the universe should be fair? No one!

How can you justify this question against the fact that you are complaining that no-one loves you for who you really are!

Because no-one knows WHO YOU REALLY ARE!!! EXCEPT YOU!!!

That is where YOUR wit, YOUR intelligence and YOUR personality is used to seduce women – thats how women love YOU for who YOU really are!!!

No one will get what hes looking for? Bound for mediocrity? Thats rubbish and you know it – you sound like a guy low on confidence, not just around girls but in life as a whole.

There are no quick fixes, no magic pills and until you realise this, that no WEBPAGE can get you what you are looking for – then and only then can you hope to evolve out of this mediocre rusk of a life that you find yourself in.

Sarging is not just going up to a girl on the street and asking for her number.

Its going out with the intent of meeting women and getting to know them, by the process of elimination – and in all our hearts we all seek that one, that one woman who will love us and cherish us for who we are – thats what sarging is, demonstrating to a women just who you are and finding out about her in return, by means of seduction tactics – not only ones that are tried and tested but through ones that you yourself have invented.

Mr N.Egative Feels Angry – he throws back his head and retorts

You’re quite right Shezzler… but I’m so tired, I’ve been getting so many rejections lately. And you know what bothers me more. It’s not the rejection in itself, but the immense burden of ipocrisy that comes with it.

“I’m just having a bad time, I cannot have a boyfriend…”

“I’m a lesbian…”

“You’re not my type…”

“What the fvck did you just say?”

…I know that, by process of elimination, I’ll find someone, but when we get something after such a long streak of failures, we’re going to never be able to accept to lose it when it will be the time… I don’t know if you can understand this. I’m just tired of all this game – it’s too difficult, why is it so easy for someone that is so shallow and it’s so hard for someone as intelligent, deep and profound about myself?

You’re right indeed, Shezzler, so right it hurts, but I’m just tired today. I hope you all can cope with that. I like to consider you as friends. I rely on friends when I’m feeling bad. So please don’t be mad at my random rants.

And no, I haven’t got low self-esteem. My looks are not bad (4.3 on Hotornot, I must be pretty hot! ), I speak five foreign languages, can discuss any issue you can imagine without problems, and I’m going to be an aerospace engineer in about six months… I’m the best a girl could desire, I think. That’s not self-esteem. It’s that I don’t have the utter esteem in all this seduction thing. We’re making an intellectual war out of an elementary thing. Our culture ruined much of this.

By the way…

Oh yeah, sarge on…

Shezz retakes the Lectern

I sense an overwhelming thickness of sarcasm dripping from your words, aswell as the fact that underneath it all – there seems to be a contrived flame against me.

We are your friends man!

And your right about the fact that we are making an intellectual war out of somthing that is so natural and so easy that it is damn near destroying our social pockets that exist, there is no togetherness between us as a whole race anymore, different segments exist upon different continents – racial segregation separates us and often ends up weakening our bonds, we all have the same blood colour – why is there so much hatred, this hatred all congeals and conspires in escalation towards other areas of life – seduction, health, careers – eventually, If we as a race and WE as INDIVIDUALS dont step up to the plate that is life, then social programming will eventually turn us all socially inept.

Good Luck in Your search

Stand And Fight!!! Enter Mr.AFC!!!

Shezz
I have to say, my thoughts at the moment are along the same lines as Mr N.Egatives (almost exactly) whereas I’m not being rejected, I’m just never trying.
I’d really love to hear from you what encouraged you to motivate yourself to change from a shy person (am I correct in saying this?) to a free, outgoing person. What went through your mind that made you change yourself, what images did you have in your mind when you changed, what were they like? How did you force yourself to overcome that first hurdle?

I have great plans for my life, it’s just taking action on my goals and believing that they’ll bring me happiness that’s the problem.

Shezz is almost spent, the AFCs relentlessness to Sarge is mindnumbing – but he takes to the stand one last time

There comes a point in every persons life where they say…Enough is Enough.

Your right, i was shy, i was socially inept – and the change all came down to one thing and one thing only – my lack of ability with women – upto the age of 17.5 – i never even held hands with a girl – Do you know how heart breaking and demoralising that can be on a kid that already as self-esteem issues? Most guys will be able to connect with that – some being bullied, some lightly teased, not fitting in, acne – not having as much stuff as other kids – getting teased for that?

This dosnt matter – but for kids growing up – ITS HARD NOT FOR IT TO MATTER!!!

How the hell can they become PUA’s when they can’t even pick up their own life? Its emotional torture, why should they try? People make them look ridiculous without the attempts – so any attempts at talking to girls will be scorned..SURELY?

Remember how, the hottest girl of the school looks at you like your some kind of stud, she likes you – YES SHE DOES, but social programming throughout life and in the tiny oyster that is school as taught that hottie that going after the nerdy guy – no matter how good looking he is -HE IS THE NERDY GUY!

Society has programmed it – He has defined it!

To overcome this barrier, that guy must overcome the veil that clouds his mindset -he must become the prize, he must know that HE IS THE PRIZE – thats what i did.

I went out and talked to strangers – greeted them – it was hard, DAMN HARD! BUT IT MUST BE DONE!
I went to clubs – at first i sucked, it took me around 2 months to get good at club approaches! But i wanted to get good! So i did! I worked hard on my inner game, something that i had long neglected – outer game is just a little piece!

Its all about WHAT YOU WANT in life – and if that thing That YOU want isnt enough to instill the will, the determination and drive into you – then nothing is.

It is hard, life is hard – but thats what makes it so fun – its a game! and every step should be enjoyed – fuck what anyone else thinks!

YOU are the prize -get out and live like it!

Sarge On…

With that, Shezz disappeared into a cloud of smoke…The Nightclubs were open – and while the AFCs continued to ignore, and read on – he went out and sarged

-Shezz

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by sytaylor

To Whom It May Concern:

As the seduction community becomes more open and in the mainstream, it seems young men who are tying its techniques for the first few times are been crucified by the media and a large number within society. These guys who have never had success with women are being punished by society for trying to improve their lives. They are working hard to achieve a goal and the firs thing society does is turn around and say STOP. If they were advancing ANYTHING other than their success with women, we’d be all for it. If the community was a fashion community women would think its adorable… yet the seduction community is assumed to be full of tricksters.

I personally take offence with this view, I have never intentionally misled a woman I care about enough to sleep with. Nor shall I. Running routines is such a tiny part of what game is about, these guys have never talked to women before, how can they expect to “be themselves” and be successful with women. Yet this is seen as tricking a woman into bed, and something to watch out for. These guys have to learn somehow, they are the guys that couldn’t get a woman, and now someone gave them tools THAT WORK, and we turn around and tell them they’re wrong? This absurd, unfair and hypocrisy of the must unjust nature.

There is a belief in society that “who you are” cannot be wrong. Your opinions can be wrong, your beliefs can be but who you are is something you have to stay true to. Who you are can be a neurotic mess, but you should still “be yourself just not neurotic”, this is clearly absurdity. I am still me, I still feel the same emotions I just know how to handle social situations better. This doesn’t invalidate my emotions at all. The fact that these men are using a routine to pick someone up is the exact same as girls who make their boyfriends do stupid magazine tests. It is meaningless fun designed to show you a guy you would ordinarily not look at.

Women have long complained that they keep going for the wrong guy. So finally the guys who are right for them find a way to get the attention of attractive women, and how does society respond? It doesn’t like it one bit! What are we not supposed to rise above our physical station?! Not on my watch. These are the guys who haven’t had women their whole lives, these are the guys who can actually bring depth to a relationship. They are the most deserving on the planet they are TRYING HARD to overcome the crap YOU in society have forced down their throat. They WILL become successful whether you like it or not because this stuff WORKS. When they do, they will K-NOW that they don’t need routines ANYMORE because they have become someone who is CONFIDENT with women.

They will be being themselves when they have LEARNED HOW TO. Many people expect quiet and shy people to actually be like that deep down, to not have any real personality. This to me is society’s real crime. This is something society should be ASHAMED of. It has been forcing these guys the wrong message for decades, and now it tries to blame us for helping them? I don’t accept it. How come it is ok to learn how to progress in your career? It is ok to learn how to dress well? It is ok to learn how to be good at sports? Yet suddenly when we learn how to be good with women we become tricksters? This is pure hypocrisy

I will fight the corner of any guy who is the unfortunate recipient of negative comment or abuse for their efforts to improve their social life. I start with this letter.

To the Gents in the community just starting out. Do not let people who discourage you get you down or stop you. They don’t want you to be successful with women; they don’t believe it’s possible, but we know different. You can learn to share the beauty of a woman as a person and physically, and your life will be better for it. Long live routines, long live the game, long live The Game!

-sytaylor

(www.themajesticself.com)

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