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After about midnight you don’t need much game….
by Guitar_Whizz
One thing I’ve noticed from recent friday & saturday night sarges in the town where I live is this – because of the binge drinking culture of the UK, after about midnight, literally EVERY girl is drunk as a skunk, therefore if you want to pull them you don’t really need all the tight game you’d usually use on a sober girl.
Here are some simple tactics for pulling these girls:-
TACTIC 1
At this time of night, and especially in loud bars, simply go up to a girl on or near the dancefloor, look her in the eyes, grab her hand and start dancing with her. Do this with TOTAL belief that you will succeed. Oh sure, some girls will brush you off but just move onto the next one if that happens. This technique is known as ‘cavemaning’.
Once you get dancing with a girl, you can start making out with her within a few minutes by going into heavy kino with the dancing and then moving your faces closer together until you are tongueing her down.
Move her to another part of the club and have a conversation, and then say you’re going to another bar and get her to come with you. Once you’re in the next bar, amplify the attraction and then try to get her back to your place by saying ‘we’re going to the monkey bar, come along’. (the monkey bar is your place). If she asks what the monkey bar is, say ‘it’s a private party that only a privaledged few are invited to’. You then get her into a taxi with you and go back to your place.
TACTIC 2
Instead of cavemaning, try this tactic instead. Outside on the street(s) where all the bars & clubs are is your GOLDEN opportunity to pull. When on a night out, don’t think that inside the bar or club is the only place to pull. The street outside the venues will be packed full of chicks walking to and from each bar or club. All you need to do is stop them and ask an opinion, flirting a bit, and then say you’re off to a certain bar and get them to come with you.
Once you’ve got them in the bar, follow the instructions as in TACTIC 1 and get them back to your place.
Both these tactics have been field tested by myself and Lucky Phil, and they work, so give them a try!
-Guitar_Whizz
The worst nights teach you an important lesson
Perspective is everything in this, being able to take bad nights as part of the process. Can you think of any footballer who puts away every goal? Even Beckham messes up free kicks (nothing on the England keepers). You’ve probably heard all this before from lit-ra-ly millions of gurus, because they want your money.
I don’t want your money. I have a different motivation: altruism. Writing this altruistically gives me a massive e-penis.
We’re going to take a different perspective, today we look at the usefulness of your worst nights, at your most pussified. Those shocking nights where you’re pretty much as you started. Not just average or poor nights, the absolute worst
Yeah, those nights.
Would you believe these awful nights help show you something amazing, that they can show you some perspective that awesome, decent and even slightly bad nights can’t show you.
It shows just how far you’ve come
As we improve we raise our standards. The same guy struggling to approach is a year later struggling with LMR (or 2 years later struggling with AA again, check out my progress journal sometime…). We always look to that next juicy thing, and forsake where we’ve improved. For most of you guys approaching 10 women in a night isn’t a big deal. It’s not even false modesty, you just don’t see it as a big deal at all. It’s like putting on the kettle and making a brew.
Having said that, I do like to go into work and let every guy know just how many brews I made last night, how hot they all were, and how far I got with each one. I’m yet to manage two cups of tea at the same time though, making me a tea-chode.
As you grow and get better at this skill with women, you make all these little adjustments to your game. You realise lots of little things that come together to make you the pimp you are right now. Because most are very subtle, you make the next change and forget what you last improved on.
At some point you have an awful night. You get blown out of the 5 sets you do, your voice is weak, you have nothing interesting to say and can’t even keep eye contact with average girls. On the way back you feel like the biggest pussy in the world.
Don’t beat yourself up, you’ve just been shown an important lesson.
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I came away from such a night a while back, and felt like shit. But then I started to realise all the things I’d improved on, all those minor (and major) changes. How I was more confident, funnier, didn’t feel the need to qualify myself, didn’t care so much what people thought. And the list went on.
It put a big smile on my face. I realised “shit, I’ve come a long long way. I’m like a different guy now”
When you’re out 4 nights a week and improving so fast, you lose sight of all this. These shit nights serve as a reminder just how far you’ve come along.
Author Bio-
Having been a professional bitch of 19 years, Ty discovered the community in 2006. When not drunkenly sleeping with girls from his work, his interests include computer games, movies and colouring-in books. Ty prefers a more natural style of game, with a strong emphasis on fun and a healthy dose of cocky-funny.
Leadership and Determinism – crucial requirements for hauling ass
The word alphaness did not appear in this article’s title because it’s a word which misled me for some time. I used to think of alphaness as a kind of social dominance -taking control over other people, not being pushed around, etc.
I think that kind of understanding of alphaness is weak, and counter-productive.
I recently accepted alphaness back into my identity after leaving it by the wayside for a long time. What caused me to do this is a new understanding of what real lady killers mean by being alpha.
It means two things:
Leadership – leading women to sex
You are the one taking the lead, especially during anything going on before the first lay. You have to develop this willingness to step-up in all situations, so that in these important ones you actually have the drive to do it.
You lead an approach, you lead the escalation, you lead her to isolation, you take all the social risks (showing interest, going for kiss, etc), and then you lead an extraction.
Leading women is simply the only way you can provide her with the hot sex she really desires. 99.9% of the time a girl will not have the ability/willpower/confidence/whatever to overcome her own social bullshit (ASD) and make sex happen; even though in her mind she is basically begging to the gods that it will.
Remember your AFC days when you would beg in your mind about some girl you like… “Please let her notice me, please let her notice me.” but there’s no way in hell back then you would have had the balls to walk up and tell her that you’d love to fuck her.
Well ASD is just like that. The chick is saying “please let him lead me away and fuck me, please let him lead me away and fuck me.”. But there is no way in hell she will be able to verbalise that or make it happen without your Alpha leadership.
Determinism – maintaining the integrity of your lead
You take full responsibility for the consequences of your lead. If you take the chick to another room in the club and it’s loud, sweaty, and uncomfortable; then you fucking deal with it. You find a way around it, you ignore it, or whatever, but its your situation which you created and you will take responsibility for that. This goes all the way from situations like this, to ultimately taking responsibility for the fact that you fucked her brains out – therefore it’s all your fault that she had multiple orgasms with some random club dude; again we’re protecting them from their own ASD.
Nothing gets in your way – you remain unphased and goal-focused. You can and will if necessary stand alone for your beliefs and your cause; even if a room full of people tries to subdue you.
You are not only persistant in your goals, but also you throw yourself into them with full pelt. This is determinism.
When you approach a girl on the dance-floor by grabbing her hand you do not pat her hand lightly and wait for her to clasp back – that actually does work very rarely but it’s weak as fuck.
You fucking GRAB her hand and MAKE her turn around, then you TELL her to spin and after she complies you PULL her into you. You do this shit with a kind of masculine determination.
The “why” isn’t so important in this case, it probably goes back to some pre-seeded evolved circuitry in the amydla which is about her determining that if she goes off with you that you can kick the shit out of anyone who tries to mess with either of you.
What do chicks do in order to see that you have this quality? They poke at your integrity with something we call “shit-tests”.
Best way to deal with that shit? Develop genuine determinism. Unphased, goal-focused, ignore her shit, lead her strong.
I remember reading a BradP report where he gets all the way to the chicks house, it looks like the chick is going to not let him in. Then he comments his thoughts at the time, “… I was 100% prepared to go back to the club.” Of course 5 minutes later she is sucking him off in her apartment.
Give her the sexual adventure that she has been dreaming of for years.
You have a willingness to step-up
You take the lead
You take responsibility
You lead with determination
You get laid
RagsToRiches
Using tension to your advantage
We’ve talked an awful lot about conversation, more than enough for you to go out there and play around with. Tonight we make soap, and do some good old fashioned pickup advice.
What does ‘tension’ suggest to you?
You’re probably thinking about an awkward pause in a conversation, the unbearable tension where you feel this weight on you. You’re riding it out because you’re an awesome guy but you can definitely feel it.
Let’s roll with this for a minute.
It’s really useful to understand that tension, and laughter, are linked. Imagine you hear a noise in your kitchen, slowly open the door, and – holding your breath – look inside. It’s just your cat trying to open a cupboard. You give out a little laugh and smile, you feel that tension disappear.
Laughter diffuses tension, it releases it.
When a friend says something a little too harsh, they’ll follow it with an awkward laugh. When no-one laughs at your joke and it goes silent, you laugh to fill in that void, to release the tension.
A little trick for you tonight. Roll up on a girl and say a harsh cocky-funny line with a straight face (without looking like a psycho), “It’s amazing what they can do with a fiver haircut”. I guarantee she’ll laugh.
You’re creating tension, and she laughs to diffuse it. There’s a careful balance to this, but try it out and you’ll see exactly what I mean. This is the reason straight-faced comedians like Jack Dee work, they create tension which we (the audience) diffuse with laughter.
Play around with this, but don’t overdo it. You’re basically tricking the girl into laughing, it doesn’t work over any period of time, and you’re going to make her feel awkward. It’s cool to see how this works, but it’s not the kind of thing I’d recommend for guys to seriously use. It’s more important that you see how all this works.
As well as using tension to generate laughter, you can use laughter to release tension.
Say you’re running a set and it’s going great, but the conversation’s slowing down and it’s starting to get a little awkward. Tension is being created. By cracking a joke you both laugh and it releases that tension, you don’t feel as awkward now and neither does she.
When you get a good grasp of this, you can use laughter as a controller on tension, and vice-versa.
Here’s another side note on tension, tension is linked to the strength of a frame. You know those awkward pauses? Whoever can handle a silent pause the longest without saying anything or defusing the tension, ‘wins’ the frame. They display having the stronger frame.
Imagine the difference between her laughing while you keep a straight face, and you laughing whilst she keeps a straight face.
When you’re mid-conversation with some girls and there’s a pause, ride it out. Filling that gap or diffusing the tension shows you’re affected by it. Being able to ride it out however shows you don’t place too much on the conversation and looks all kinds of good.
Being able to comfortably ride tension is an amazing skill to have.
(For more about humour and tension I’d recommend David DeAngelo’s “Cocky Comedy” DVDs)
Awkward pauses however, are only one side of it. We also have sexual tension.
Sexual tension is pretty much the same as the regular kind. It’s linked to laughter (which releases some of its effect) and can be messed with the same way.
However, you want to handle sexual tension the total opposite to normal tension.
Sexual tension is great, it’s that brief pause where you look into the girl’s eyes just before the kiss. It’s the promise of sex without the action. Girls fucking love this and you should learn to enjoy it too. Being able to genuinely enjoy and revel in sexual tension will help you out so much.
On a side note foreplay doesn’t begin with you touching her, it begins with the build-up of sexual tension. The bigger the build up, the bigger the release (I.e. better sex).
The more sexual tension you can create the better.
With standard tension sometimes it gets too much and you want to release it a little with laughter. With sexual tension you don’t want to release it, and therefore why you want to limit the laughter and pissing around.
If you create a ton of sexual tension then keeping joking around, it’s going to undo all that. You’ll ruin the mood.
So you ratchet up the sexual tension and don’t release it. You purposefully avoid humour and the release of that tension. You’re making tension work for you.
Bear this in mind if you’re going the sexual state route. For those of you not familiar GunWitch has some pretty cool stuff on this (although I do disagree with some of the other points he makes). You literally imagine yourself banging a girl right there and then, and put yourself in that sexual mindset. Your voice gets deeper, you develop ‘bedroom eyes’ and have that sly little smile. Also, you project your own – sexual – state onto her, and she starts feel horny for no apparent reason.
Sexual state is a great way to start building tension, and if you throw any humour in it’s going to diffuse this. Of course there’s always times to break this, and you might want to tone down the sexual tension a bit if it’s too much for her or the timing’s wrong.
Ultimately be aware that laughter diffuses tension, whether it’s standard, awkward or the sexual kind. How you want to play with it, is entirely up to you.
Author Bio-
Having been a professional bitch of 19 years, Ty discovered the community in 2006. When not drunkenly sleeping with girls from his work, his interests include computer games, movies and colouring-in books. Ty prefers a more natural style of game, with a strong emphasis on fun and a healthy dose of cocky-funny.
A common conversational mistake even community guys make
What sets your average Ty apart from most guys, aside from his delicious taste in waistcoats and vague suspicions that he might be gay, is his not so average conversation.
Tying nicely into the last article (Starting Conversations The Right Way), today we look at a common mistake that so many guys make.
Standard questions, and standard statements.
Consider the following:
“What do you do at uni?”
“I’m a doctor”
“Yeah? What year are you in?”
“Erm…2nd”
“So what’s it like?”
“Yeah it’s pretty good, I really enjoy it”
“Oh, that’s cool”
It’s what most guys do, aimlessly talking. They’ve no real interest in what they’re saying, it’s just anything to avoid that cold, hard awkward silence. The John McClane of tension where you can feel it’s eyes burning into the back of your head and you want to die. Hard.
You don’t have to talk about anything serious or meaningful, the conversation doesn’t have to go anywhere, but you do want to have a purpose when you talk. A lot of what comes out of your mouth should be interesting and/or funny.
I always believe that you should make a girl laugh or think, make her intrigued. Hell, make her angry, pissed off or upset. Be anything but boring or standard.
The problem with the above example is there’s no soul to it, no fun. It’s plain-vanilla cold-hard fact.
When dealing with girls try to avoid cold hard facts or logic, deal in emotions or fun instead. This is a key part in being and having fun.
Avoid standard questions.
Instead of “What’s that like?”, you could ask:
“Do you ever have wheelchair races?”
“Ahh, but can you eat it?”
“Do you think I could pull of a pink fairy outfit?”
“Does it make me gay if I dress up in women’s clothes but don’t enjoy it?”
Modify these to suit your own style. It doesn’t matter so much in what you’re saying, just add some flavour to it, add your own style. If you’re a sarcastic kind of guy, ask a sarcastic question you find quite funny; if you’re genuinely intrigued, ask a question you genuinely want to know the answer to. If you’re in a childish kind of mood, ask a childish question.
You’re not there to entertain this girl, you’re there to have fun and be entertained yourself.
Standard answers are the same deal.
If a girl asks you a question, no matter how boring, see if you can give an interesting/funny reply:
“So what do you at uni?”
“I’m a lap dancer”
“Haha no seriously”
“What, you think I don’t have the body for it? Hey I had to work to look like this, McDonalds 4 times a week. You shouldn’t take the piss anyway, it’s really hard work”
“Haha yeah?”
“Well I did okay on some of the modules, but I keep fucking up ‘working the punter’ “
Nothing to worry Ricky Gervais (unless his next show is about university or lap dancers), but it’s far better than a boring, standard-ass dialogue about uni that just isn’t interesting.
What you’ll also find is, this kind of interesting conversation also brings out the best in the girl. Rather than the standard replies she gives to the millions of guys, you’ve now got her attention and she’ll put decent effort into the conversation. This then gives you more to work with and it’s mere hours until she becomes intimate with your balls. Just make sure she gives them decent names.
And this isn’t just for sarging, get into this mindset of being creative with replies when talking to friends, family or whoever:
“Were you out last night Ty?”
“Nah, couldn’t afford it”
“Haha, blew your wages already?”
“Yeah man, Fat Tony has to be paid. My knees can’t take another beating”
A little rule I always take out with me to the club is “fun beats fact”, and probably the core of my success.
It’s the concept of saying something fun or interesting, rather than cold hard fact. Put more focus on enjoying what you say, rather than being right or correct.
“A pirate did it”, instead of “Oh I just scratched my hand on a door”
“Swift couldn’t control himself”, instead of “I spilt something on my quilt”
Then you can follow these up with weird-ass stories and you’ve got a decent conversation on your hands.
However, don’t goofy or a clown. You don’t want to be like this all the time or it comes across as annoying. You’re not meant to constantly be like this, it’s simply a way of injecting more fun into an otherwise boring conversation.
Don’t be afraid of standard questions or statements now and then either. As a means to an end (not an end themselves) to interesting conversation, they’re perfectly fine. You don’t have to be this clever guy constantly.
Normal conversation is cool too, it has its moments. Don’t abandon just being a cool, chilled, normal guy. There’s a lot of value in just having a decent vibe with a girl.
So take the following with you next time you’re out:
Fun beats fact
Don’t reel off a list of facts or boringly describe your day, put a fun spin on what you say.
Author Bio-
Having been a professional bitch of 19 years, Ty discovered the community in 2006. When not drunkenly sleeping with girls from his work, his interests include computer games, movies and colouring-in books. Ty prefers a more natural style of game, with a strong emphasis on fun and a healthy dose of cocky-funny.
When you have to choose between two girls…
Haaa, this is something that I used to get so much pre-PU. It’s when your out one night and you have some, typically two, ‘leads’ for pulling that night. Often the situation is, one is fitter than the other but the least fit one would be easier. And you try to stay on the fence and game the fitter one, thinking that you can move back to the easier option if you don’t make it all the way with your first choice. Then something happens and you can’t pull the fitter one, then immediately after you find you’ve lost your chance to pull the other, and the bottom line reason is, you spent too much time with the other girl and wasted the chance.
Even pre-PU, this has gotten me several times, and post-PU, it still gets me. Take last night as a completely random example of this. It was completely ON with one girl, a not great body but pretty face and lovely girl. She was drunk, all over me, all the kino signs were there (pushing breasts into me when talking, close talking, in my personal space a lot, cheeks touching when talking, no resistance to any kino from me), and she verbally stated she was into me. And she was very horny/psyched up. The other chick, was hotter, not as much fun in the student party time sense of the word but cool and I could have a cool conversation with her. At first I was thinking I’d go for the less hot one, but as soon as it became more-or-less a sure thing I started getting a bit greedy, and the above scenario played itself out.
What happened was, the less hot girl was picked up by someone else (literally about 20 seconds from him walking up to her to kissing her, and this guy was no PUA/model to give an idea of how horny she was!). Meanwhile, I just could not get the hot one into a useable state (don’t mean that to sound manipulative…I mean into a more excited/cheerful state), she was a pretty ‘cool’ character and probably needed lots of ‘trust and comfort’ game which I didn’t have the time or effort for.
My problem here, as it has been always, was that I wanted the easiness of one chick with the looks of the other, conveniently forgetting these are not contained within the same girl. You get a good chance with one girl and you forget that even if it’s ON, there is still work to do and you can’t leave her to her own devices in a club full of horny guys!
No longer will this happen! I have a new plan. Now, upon noticing the situation when it arises, I will make a choice based on the following factors – If I really just want a lay, I will simply go for the easier option and be happy with it. Such as if there has been a dry spell of new lays, I want to keep momentum going, or if I just want a down and dirty lay that night (my low standards are well documented), ie “take one for the scoresheet”. If I am happy with the current new lay situation, ie I am pulling pretty often, I will go for quality and forget the easy lay. For you, it may be different. You might have the gameplan “whichever girl is hottest I will go for, no matter what” or “whichever girl I enjoy talking to most is the one I will go for”. The point is that you have to have a decision rule for this situation, because indecisiveness has been thoroughly field tested and found to be maddeningly ineffective!