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ASD – A girl’s strong desire to protect herself from being a “slut” or “easy”. Sometimes she only cares what others think of her, so you can seduce her in private. Other times she wants to believe herself that she is not a slut, and you have to overcome her barriers within herself.

Girls experience this feeling in the form of social anxiety. They get nervous, a tight feeling in their chest, they feel stifled, sometimes they want to run from the situation.

It’s the same as your escalation/approach anxiety … in fact escalation anxiety can be re-framed as “MALE ASD”… and her ASD is in fact exactly the same kind of anxiety barrier getting in the way of her getting sex from you as AA is a barrier to you laying her.

It’s the same SHIT!

What’s the real reframe here?

How many times have you been in set and ejected early? I used to do it tons.

That’s almost exactly the same as a chick spazzing out because of ASD.

Did it mean I didn’t want to fuck the chick when I ejected? No.

Does it mean she doesn’t want to fuck you when she ASDs?

No.

Side Question: Why do chicks drink alcohol?

Answer: To overcome ASD.

Help her overcome her social anxiety.

Bust through her ASD!

* Persist - she wants you
* Understand it could be her anxiety making her want to run, it’s not the choice she wants to make.
* Just like you can use weird ways of getting around your AA – tricking yourself, reframing, etc – you can use the same techniques on her.
* IE: Try changing things… her surroundings… her friends… even cooler and more subtle… just try literally facing her from a different angle (Genius!)
* Take responsibility… take total control of her and move her to grind/kiss… make it 100% your “fault”.

RagsToRich

Avoid Mental Masturbation

“For every 1 hour reading material, spend at least 2 hours in field.”
Brad P

If you’re not doing this, from this day you do it. Even if it’s 2 hours walking around a shopping mall doing “eye contact” experiments. Be strict, at least 2 hours for every 1 reading/watching.

Why?

Because otherwise all this shit is just entertainment to you… nothing more.

You cannot progress by reading and watching… there is a saying in Buddhism that the mastery is in the practice.

You must participate, you must act… there is no other way to learn properly. Things like kino, calibration, eye contact, vibing… these things can NOT be learning through watching and reading. You must practice… a lot.

Split it down even further…

Practice what you want to Improve

“When a noob is learning to become a carpenter in the workshop, the first thing they do is give him a plank of wood and a box of nails and ask him to keep nailing the nails into the plank until there is no visible wood left.

The next day the apprentice has a good feel for the hammer, the weight of the strike, how to correct nails which have entered the wood at a bad angle, etc.”
Mankite

This principle is identical in PU. If you need to learn how to tell jokes – tell a joke in every set. With analysis your progress will be faster still, but even with no analysis at all your emotional circuitry will auto-correct and you will get better at it just through the process.

Try learning how to be amazing joke-teller without telling any jokes in the process…

Not possible, no matter how many books you read.

Practice doesn’t have to be in field!

Although infield practice is crucial… not all practice has to be in field.

Here’s five examples of practice which can be done out of field:

1) Meditation
2) Practicing facial expressions in mirror
3) Practicing dance moves
4) Practicing massage
5) Voice exercises

What’s the moral?

Become more pragmatic!

RagsToRiches

Perspective is everything in this, being able to take bad nights as part of the process. Can you think of any footballer who puts away every goal? Even Beckham messes up free kicks (nothing on the England keepers). You’ve probably heard all this before from lit-ra-ly millions of gurus, because they want your money.

I don’t want your money. I have a different motivation: altruism. Writing this altruistically gives me a massive e-penis.

We’re going to take a different perspective, today we look at the usefulness of your worst nights, at your most pussified. Those shocking nights where you’re pretty much as you started. Not just average or poor nights, the absolute worst

Yeah, those nights.

Would you believe these awful nights help show you something amazing, that they can show you some perspective that awesome, decent and even slightly bad nights can’t show you.

It shows just how far you’ve come

As we improve we raise our standards. The same guy struggling to approach is a year later struggling with LMR (or 2 years later struggling with AA again, check out my progress journal sometime…). We always look to that next juicy thing, and forsake where we’ve improved. For most of you guys approaching 10 women in a night isn’t a big deal. It’s not even false modesty, you just don’t see it as a big deal at all. It’s like putting on the kettle and making a brew.

Having said that, I do like to go into work and let every guy know just how many brews I made last night, how hot they all were, and how far I got with each one. I’m yet to manage two cups of tea at the same time though, making me a tea-chode.

As you grow and get better at this skill with women, you make all these little adjustments to your game. You realise lots of little things that come together to make you the pimp you are right now. Because most are very subtle, you make the next change and forget what you last improved on.

At some point you have an awful night. You get blown out of the 5 sets you do, your voice is weak, you have nothing interesting to say and can’t even keep eye contact with average girls. On the way back you feel like the biggest pussy in the world.

Don’t beat yourself up, you’ve just been shown an important lesson.

I came away from such a night a while back, and felt like shit. But then I started to realise all the things I’d improved on, all those minor (and major) changes. How I was more confident, funnier, didn’t feel the need to qualify myself, didn’t care so much what people thought. And the list went on.

It put a big smile on my face. I realised “shit, I’ve come a long long way. I’m like a different guy now”

When you’re out 4 nights a week and improving so fast, you lose sight of all this. These shit nights serve as a reminder just how far you’ve come along.

Author Bio-
Having been a professional bitch of 19 years, Ty discovered the community in 2006. When not drunkenly sleeping with girls from his work, his interests include computer games, movies and colouring-in books. Ty prefers a more natural style of game, with a strong emphasis on fun and a healthy dose of cocky-funny.

C&F, Take-aways, not leaning in, showing disinterest, NEGing… these are advanced techniques. They are meant to demonstrate that you’re not going to just submit all your value to someone just because they have a pussy.

Well guess what… that shit only works when two conditions are met:

1) you HAVE value in the first place

Most people do not have enough value to be using this kind of shit, especially heavily. Unless you’re a high-flying salesman, or just a super-cool dude already – you’d be much better off working on building up your value. As in, becoming a cooler dude to be around, to interact with, etc.

2) the chick you are talking to is used to guys submitting to her

Most CHICKS are NOT used to this. We’re not in Hollywood here, this is the North of England man… Our girls ARE LSE! Even the hot ones! They are not used to cool guys being cool to them.

Conclusion:

Fuck the disinterest side of shit – you can calibrate that later. First and foremost develop high value, or become what I think of as a value cannon.

General principles:

a) In each interaction focus on giving value, rather than outcome/whatever (Cred: Skill)

b) Show interest/attention.

What is a high value guy?

In social interactions, simply, is a dude who can create positive (addictive) emotions in the people around him. So people think, yea that’s the dude who makes everyone laugh or creates a party atmosphere, or always has a positive outlook, etc.

If you really need some work in this area you may want to consider forgetting about getting laid for now and for 2 weeks make a commitment – in EVERY social situation you are in you are to be the HIGHEST energy, the FUNNEST guy, and DEFINATELY the guy having the MOST FUN!!

Do that  – watch your popularity with everyone shoot.

Then do it 1-1 with chicks – works a lot better than being aloof right?

“If someone can’t chat me up, how can they expect to chat a girl up?” – Sideiei (PUA)

Awesome statement, 100% true. Apply to community dudes you meet… if they are not cool to hang around with dudes, no way girls will think they are cool either.

List of things you can do TODAY to increase your value to the people around you:

1) Always consider the most positive outcome.
2) Become a solution finder, instead of a problem finder.
3) Learn to tell good stories.
4) Learn to have the most fun… the dude having the most fun IS the most fun!
5) Never ever ever whine, complain, create problems, get in the way of plans, or even be TOO QUIET. If you’re in a bar and you’re in a group, and you’re not involved in a conversation - get involved in one and bring a positive energy to it.
6) Get in shape, smile more, clean yourself up – basically become more attractive to look at.
etc.

Be the value giver, the party bringer, the high-energy dude, the guy who makes everyone feel better about the situations, the optimist.

And forget NEGs completely.

See where it gets you.

RagsToRich

GUARENTEED RESULTS IN 30 DAYS!!!

SEX WITH MODELS IN LESS THAN 3 MONTHS!!

IN JUST ONE YEAR YOUR LIFE WILL BE TRANSFORMED INTO YOUR OWN PERSONAL PARIDISE!!

There is only one magic pill in this game…

A shit-load of serious effort!

You’re not in this for days, weeks, or months – you’re in it for years. This is a big life changing area and to get the BIG results you have to treat it as such.

Unless you’re already having pretty decent success with women – lots of kisses, a lay every other month, etc… then you should have no delusions about how long and how hard you’re going to have to go into this area to get to where you want to be.

Noone masters this game in weeks, or months. It takes years of serious dedication. Take Sleazyof mASF for example who now gets incredible rock-star style club lays several times a month. It took him about 18 months of going out 3-7 nights a week, sober every time, to go from a guy who gets a k-close 8/10 nights, to where he is now.

That is a lot of effort, a lot of time, and he’s coming from a relatively very-high starting point compared to where many of us start from.

Be prepared for the long haul.

Mini-guide: Preparation for the Long Haul

First create a deep powerful sense of motivation. Obsess about your goals, truly discover the reasons why you want to become a master of seduction, and make sure those reasons are firming implanted in your mind. You will need absolute determination in order to go through the challenges ahead – so create that determination from a very solid sense of what it is you want. This goal will now become the primary focus of your existence – so be prepared to justify strongly your reasons for putting huge amounts of effort into your self-improvement.

Put the time in field, make the time count, and have a good time while you’re going it. 1-2 nights a week will not cut it if you want serious progress, it’s 3-7. When you’re in field you should be approaching, if you’re not approaching at all you need to focus everything you have on approaching. You also have to have a good time – emotional health plus infield state is too important not too. If you’re not having a good time, work out how to have a good time and make sure you have one. Quick suggestions – meditation, NLP (model someone who’s a party-animal), do high energy shit, find some cool wings who you enjoy hanging around with.

When it seems like progress is slow, think about all the things you can do now that you never used to be able to. Then reflect on the problems you were facing 6-3 months ago, notice how they are less-advanced than the ones you are facing now. Also, remember this – http://www.northenglandlair.com/blog/the-secret-of-human-bipolarness/

Quick Tip: The Rare Successful – The Common Failures

I have found no area of life more challenging than this one – this is the ultimate challenge; which encompasses self-development, style, career, social interactions, social dynamics, fitness, etc etc…

For many many years there have been self-help books on how to become very rich – yet for all the millions who have read them only a very small number become successful. You could read those books today, work very hard, and be successful with money – that is the world we live in.

This area is just like that.

Are you going to be one of the few who really does make it, getting the success with chicks that you want, or are you going to be just another dude who read a bunch of material, did a bunch of challenges, indulged in self-challenge, but didn’t work hard enough to make it happen?

RagsToRiches

The word alphaness did not appear in this article’s title because it’s a word which misled me for some time. I used to think of alphaness as a kind of social dominance -taking control over other people, not being pushed around, etc.

I think that kind of understanding of alphaness is weak, and counter-productive.

I recently accepted alphaness back into my identity after leaving it by the wayside for a long time. What caused me to do this is a new understanding of what real lady killers mean by being alpha.

It means two things:

Leadership – leading women to sex

You are the one taking the lead, especially during anything going on before the first lay. You have to develop this willingness to step-up in all situations, so that in these important ones you actually have the drive to do it.

You lead an approach, you lead the escalation, you lead her to isolation, you take all the social risks (showing interest, going for kiss, etc), and then you lead an extraction.

Leading women is simply the only way you can provide her with the hot sex she really desires. 99.9% of the time a girl will not have the ability/willpower/confidence/whatever to overcome her own social bullshit (ASD) and make sex happen; even though in her mind she is basically begging to the gods that it will.

Remember your AFC days when you would beg in your mind about some girl you like… “Please let her notice me, please let her notice me.” but there’s no way in hell back then you would have had the balls to walk up and tell her that you’d love to fuck her.

Well ASD is just like that. The chick is saying “please let him lead me away and fuck me, please let him lead me away and fuck me.”. But there is no way in hell she will be able to verbalise that or make it happen without your Alpha leadership.

Determinism – maintaining the integrity of your lead

You take full responsibility for the consequences of your lead. If you take the chick to another room in the club and it’s loud, sweaty, and uncomfortable; then you fucking deal with it. You find a way around it, you ignore it, or whatever, but its your situation which you created and you will take responsibility for that. This goes all the way from situations like this, to ultimately taking responsibility for the fact that you fucked her brains out – therefore it’s all your fault that she had multiple orgasms with some random club dude; again we’re protecting them from their own ASD.

Nothing gets in your way – you remain unphased and goal-focused. You can and will if necessary stand alone for your beliefs and your cause; even if a room full of people tries to subdue you.

You are not only persistant in your goals, but also you throw yourself into them with full pelt. This is determinism.

When you approach a girl on the dance-floor by grabbing her hand you do not pat her hand lightly and wait for her to clasp back – that actually does work very rarely but it’s weak as fuck.

You fucking GRAB her hand and MAKE her turn around, then you TELL her to spin and after she complies you PULL her into you. You do this shit with a kind of masculine determination.

The “why” isn’t so important in this case, it probably goes back to some pre-seeded evolved circuitry in the amydla which is about her determining that if she goes off with you that you can kick the shit out of anyone who tries to mess with either of you.

What do chicks do in order to see that you have this quality? They poke at your integrity with something we call “shit-tests”.

Best way to deal with that shit? Develop genuine determinism. Unphased, goal-focused, ignore her shit, lead her strong.

I remember reading a BradP report where he gets all the way to the chicks house, it looks like the chick is going to not let him in. Then he comments his thoughts at the time, “… I was 100% prepared to go back to the club.” Of course 5 minutes later she is sucking him off in her apartment.

Give her the sexual adventure that she has been dreaming of for years.

You have a willingness to step-up
You take the lead
You take responsibility
You lead with determination

You get laid

RagsToRiches

We’ve talked an awful lot about conversation, more than enough for you to go out there and play around with. Tonight we make soap, and do some good old fashioned pickup advice.

What does ‘tension’ suggest to you?

You’re probably thinking about an awkward pause in a conversation, the unbearable tension where you feel this weight on you. You’re riding it out because you’re an awesome guy but you can definitely feel it.

Let’s roll with this for a minute.

It’s really useful to understand that tension, and laughter, are linked. Imagine you hear a noise in your kitchen, slowly open the door, and – holding your breath – look inside. It’s just your cat trying to open a cupboard. You give out a little laugh and smile, you feel that tension disappear.

Laughter diffuses tension, it releases it.

When a friend says something a little too harsh, they’ll follow it with an awkward laugh. When no-one laughs at your joke and it goes silent, you laugh to fill in that void, to release the tension.

A little trick for you tonight. Roll up on a girl and say a harsh cocky-funny line with a straight face (without looking like a psycho), “It’s amazing what they can do with a fiver haircut”. I guarantee she’ll laugh.

You’re creating tension, and she laughs to diffuse it. There’s a careful balance to this, but try it out and you’ll see exactly what I mean. This is the reason straight-faced comedians like Jack Dee work, they create tension which we (the audience) diffuse with laughter.

Play around with this, but don’t overdo it. You’re basically tricking the girl into laughing, it doesn’t work over any period of time, and you’re going to make her feel awkward. It’s cool to see how this works, but it’s not the kind of thing I’d recommend for guys to seriously use. It’s more important that you see how all this works.

As well as using tension to generate laughter, you can use laughter to release tension.

Say you’re running a set and it’s going great, but the conversation’s slowing down and it’s starting to get a little awkward. Tension is being created. By cracking a joke you both laugh and it releases that tension, you don’t feel as awkward now and neither does she.

When you get a good grasp of this, you can use laughter as a controller on tension, and vice-versa.

Here’s another side note on tension, tension is linked to the strength of a frame. You know those awkward pauses? Whoever can handle a silent pause the longest without saying anything or defusing the tension, ‘wins’ the frame. They display having the stronger frame.

Imagine the difference between her laughing while you keep a straight face, and you laughing whilst she keeps a straight face.

When you’re mid-conversation with some girls and there’s a pause, ride it out. Filling that gap or diffusing the tension shows you’re affected by it. Being able to ride it out however shows you don’t place too much on the conversation and looks all kinds of good.

Being able to comfortably ride tension is an amazing skill to have.

(For more about humour and tension I’d recommend David DeAngelo’s “Cocky Comedy” DVDs)

Awkward pauses however, are only one side of it. We also have sexual tension.

Sexual tension is pretty much the same as the regular kind. It’s linked to laughter (which releases some of its effect) and can be messed with the same way.

However, you want to handle sexual tension the total opposite to normal tension.

Sexual tension is great, it’s that brief pause where you look into the girl’s eyes just before the kiss. It’s the promise of sex without the action. Girls fucking love this and you should learn to enjoy it too. Being able to genuinely enjoy and revel in sexual tension will help you out so much.

On a side note foreplay doesn’t begin with you touching her, it begins with the build-up of sexual tension. The bigger the build up, the bigger the release (I.e. better sex).

The more sexual tension you can create the better.

With standard tension sometimes it gets too much and you want to release it a little with laughter. With sexual tension you don’t want to release it, and therefore why you want to limit the laughter and pissing around.

If you create a ton of sexual tension then keeping joking around, it’s going to undo all that. You’ll ruin the mood.

So you ratchet up the sexual tension and don’t release it. You purposefully avoid humour and the release of that tension. You’re making tension work for you.

Bear this in mind if you’re going the sexual state route. For those of you not familiar GunWitch has some pretty cool stuff on this (although I do disagree with some of the other points he makes). You literally imagine yourself banging a girl right there and then, and put yourself in that sexual mindset. Your voice gets deeper, you develop ‘bedroom eyes’ and  have that sly little smile. Also, you project your own – sexual – state onto her, and she starts feel horny for no apparent reason.

Sexual state is a great way to start building tension, and if you throw any humour in it’s going to diffuse this. Of course there’s always times to break this, and you might want to tone down the sexual tension a bit if it’s too much for her or the timing’s wrong.

Ultimately be aware that laughter diffuses tension, whether it’s standard, awkward or the sexual kind. How you want to play with it, is entirely up to you.

Author Bio-
Having been a professional bitch of 19 years, Ty discovered the community in 2006. When not drunkenly sleeping with girls from his work, his interests include computer games, movies and colouring-in books. Ty prefers a more natural style of game, with a strong emphasis on fun and a healthy dose of cocky-funny.

It’s not always smooth running… occasionally you have a hiccup.

You have a half-arsed night out with a handful of sets, maybe lethargic reactions and maybe no closes. Afterwards you may think about all the opportunities you should have taken up, all the things you know you can do but for some reason on that night did not. Maybe you even realise later you had passed up an easy shot at a lay which you know you could have secured with skills you have displayed on other nights; but on that night things just weren’t clicking, and you just weren’t on…

When you have a night or two like this it’s not just a case of taking away what areas of improvement you can, realising where you could have done something different or better, etc. There’s more at work here than just technique… there’s a naturally flowing PUA form – sometimes you’re on, sometimes you’re not. The importance of understanding this is to know that a bad night is just a one off, and that relatively poor nights are just bound to happen. There are two varying factors which affect this.

The first is your base emotional state. I don’t know anyone who doesn’t, to varying degrees, have a fluctuating emotional state – I call it human bipolarness. Literally everyone I know has a few days when they don’t feel as great as usual, and other days when they feel totally on top of the world. This doesn’t just apply to PUAs, or even self-development enthusiast, this is even the case for chodes, normal people, etc. Even people whose life remains the same day after day after year still have these peaks and troughs in emotional state. So it’s important to realise that if you’re having an off night, or maybe have just been feeling down for a day or two, it’s possibly just a natural fluctuation that you’ll come firing out the other side of imminently.

There’s a number of things you can do to minimise the troughs in this regard, some of which you may want to consider are:

1)      Regular exercise
2)      Keeping in good shape
3)      Eating a healthy balanced diet ensuring no deficiencies particularly in things like Vit D, Zinc, Mag.
4)      Mindfulness Meditation
5)      Cleanliness (surroundings and personal hygiene)
6)      Cut drug/drink intake; including illegal drugs, minimising caffeine, alcohol, quitting smoking, etc.

The second major cause of performance fluctuations is experienced due to a function of how humans perform when learning to master any particular area. The journey to mastery is not a straight line of progress; it’s a curvy peak and trough style graph. This is why perseverance is held in such regard with highly successful people, because it will be at a time when you are apparently doing worse than you were previously that suddenly your ability will shoot through to the next level. Many highly successful businessmen experienced a time of relative poor performance just before they had the defining success of their careers.

The only solution to this kind of fluctuation is perseverance. It is simply a quality of the human condition that your ability level will fluctuate as you take on new information and apply that information in field.

Understanding of this isn’t really that important, the only important thing is to realise that improvement is not an ever-growing graph. You have ups and downs, so be ready for them: whenever you feel that progress has been slow, or that things haven’t been working out for the best, that’s the time to really dig in, to push like hell, and to come catapulting out the other side.

RagsToRiches

by Colonel

There are several differences but when I was there, there were a lot of things particularly in Mystery’s stuff that I previously didn’t ever see in the UK but now I do. I also think it’s because he lives in Vegas and lives the Vegas lifestyle which may or may not differ from the rest of the USA.

This can only be applied to my experiences there, because it is a holiday resort and chicks are often looking for action so it may have given me a warped sense of the USA, perhaps we should title this differences between UK and Vegas, anyway who fucking cares really?

First things first, generally speaking British people tend to be more reserved and less friendly towards strangers, this manifests itself when you do approach that they immediately think that ‘you want something’ or your intentions are sinister/immoral or generally not good. British people often think that if someone approaches them on the street or in a shop then they want them to buy something or take part in a survey. This makes me realise that approaching girls outside of socially acceptable places such as bars is much much more difficult here in the UK than it is in the USA. I found approaching a whole lot easier over there and I think approaching here is harder because you get less AI’s

AI’s, I’m not saying we don’t get them here in the UK but American chicks seem to be a lot more interested in checking you out and smiling at you as they walk past or are hanging out in a bar or in a shop or wherever really. This makes the whole PU thing a lot easier over there because you get them a lot more frequently! Again this may be a Vegas thing.

Peacocking, again when I am in the UK I sometimes look a bit ‘out there’. Me and my friend jumped into 2 girls photos and we started chatting and the girls asked us if we were in a band presumably because we were dressed like rock stars- I loved that bit! Anyway you can really get away with drawing attention to yourself here much more.

Buying shit for women. This is a big one. In the USA the women are far more shallow and are interested in men purely on the basis of buying drinks, presents, flowers or whatever, or in other words how much money they have.

It’s all about displays of wealth, especially in Vegas. The hottest women were like flies around shit if the man was flashing the cash, or sitting in a particular part of the club that he had paid a great deal of money for the privilege of being there. I met a group of guys that paid $750 EACH to sit in the VIP room of a nightclub called PURE. I told him if I had all the money in the world I wouldn’t be paying $750 to sit in a nightclub, everybody in earshot laughed at these guys because I made them look like the fools that they were.

The vast majority of British women are to a degree more interested in men because of their personalities and the way they make them feel which I have to applaud them for. I am sure American chicks are like that too deep down, but culturally it at least appears they get told to go for the rich men with good jobs. I do think that British women also go for looks a fair bit more though on the downside. This is why I respect the original PUA’s that worked this shit out. The community there were going against the doctrine and realizing it’s all about how you make a woman feel and not about how much money you have.

Discrepancies in looks. Generally speaking I saw a lot of really hot girls with some pretty average looking guys. They were not PUA’s, but they were probably lawyers, doctors or whatever. In the UK generally speaking people tend to end up with similar levels on the looks scale. I think this is again down to our reserved ness as a nation, the fact that public displays of wealth are frowned upon so girls go for men based on looks more but as a PUA it’s possible to go against the norms.

Looking high status or Alpha in a bar/mixing sets. This was way easier over there. The people that think they are high status reserve tables and try to look wealthy, the girls would visit the tables for free drinks. My wing and I would hover in the middle and meet all the chicks and introduce guys to the chicks we didn’t want. Before we knew it we had the guys buying us drinks, and we looked like the leaders of the group and we all know what they get! I found this really easy over there, in the UK doing that kind of shit is really hard.

IOI’s You have to make sure you don’t misinterpret IOI’s as an English man in the USA. As English man if you get any three IOI’s of any description from a girl then you’re in! In the USA there are IOI’s and then there are the ‘real’ IOI’s that convey ‘real’ sexual interest.

Kino, American chicks are much more responsive to kino than British girls are, again it’s down to the cultural reserved ness I think. This goes out the window when British girls drink and their social inhibitions reduce which leads me to.

Alcohol Consumption. There is a huge discrepancy to what American Chicks and British chicks drink. I realised that alcohol in the UK is the lubricant that enables us to meet and have sex, if we didn’t have it as a nation there would be a whole lot less sex going on! I saw some drunken American girls and they lost so many of their inhibitions I would consider it to be totally immoral to take a chick like that home.

Negging. It worked a whole lot better over there than in the UK. When you neg a British girl, especially a hot one, she will think that you are taking the piss and either laugh or tell you to fuck off. In the USA they take EVERYTHING you say literally so this shit works over there much better, but don’t get me wrong it still works pretty well over here!

Humour. I didn’t realize how witty we actually are as a nation, I had huge groups of people laughing their heads off, and I don’t think I am a particularly funny person! The one thing you have to be careful of in the USA is sarcasm, they just don’t get it. When I am being sarcastically funny which us brits love the Americans take it literally and believe the sarcasm. I think us Brits are naturals with the C&F now I have met ‘real life’ Americans on their own patch!

Grinding on the dancefloor. An American chick will rub her ass against your dick and grind and not even see that as a sexual move. If a British girl did that I would have her out of the club and into a taxi in seconds! It’s totally socially acceptable over there. The dancefloor is a bad place for PU in the USA I feel. I tended to hover around the edges and get them when they wanted a rest, which is to be fair what I do here. If your a nightclub dancefloor specialist then be careful over there!

This is the best one. If you are British and you happen to be in the states then you are ON. I think it’s that evolutionary thing from way back when we lived in small communities, the women wanted to have sex with men from far away to lessen the risks of inbreeding. We are men from far away but speak their language and have a sense of humour. How cool is that?!!

In summary I think it is harder for us than it is for them, my feeling is a good British PUA would absolutely wipe the floor with what was considered to be good out there. We train in a much more hostile environment!

The Colonel

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by Colonel

My wing and I were discussing our previous nights activities on the way back from Leeds on Sunday and we came to the conclusion that the better looking a girl is the LESS likely she is to get approached.

We all know that UG’s don’t get approached, unless its at the end of the night and the AFC’s are mortal and activate ‘caveman mode’!

We firmly believe that the girls that get approached more than any others are the 5’s 6’s and 7’s. The reason for this is straightforward. Your ‘Average Joe’ will find it difficult enough to approach chicks as it is, he will be unwilling to go outside of his comfort zone any further than he already is by approaching a chick that he believes is ‘above his station’ and therefore will settle on a 5,6 or 7.

I have found that the girls in this category are the ones that get approached more simply because they appear ‘more approachable’ to your normal everyday man. I would not describe a guy that has the confidence to approach strange women as an AFC simply because they are a bit higher up the scale.

I was gaming a 10 a while ago and one of the things she said to me was that she hardly ever got approached in clubs by anybody, well that’s a bit of a lie, she got her ass felt a lot and got a lot of extremely drunk blokes who presumably had built up a lot of Dutch courage but couldn’t speak to save their lives!

She could not remember the last time a normal/cool stranger had struck up conversation with her in any situation! She does notice always about 20 guys ‘in the vicinity’ looking at her, which, incidentally, she hates!

All of her boyfriends had come from social circle (an impressive social circle to be fair) and she had about 20 guys that kept in regular contact, that were her ‘male friends’. These utter fools didn’t realise what frame they had put themselves into!!

Anyway my point is this; don’t assume that because a chick is a 9 that you are not good enough for her because she probably hasn’t met a cool guy in a bar for months, if ever!

She will get attention but who wants some drunken lecherous fucking wanker grabbing their arse or talking utter shit to them?

My wing proved this (he approaches anything without fear) when he managed to pull a chick that appears regularly in The Sport (she was a 9) on Saturday night!

- Colonel

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