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The word alphaness did not appear in this article’s title because it’s a word which misled me for some time. I used to think of alphaness as a kind of social dominance -taking control over other people, not being pushed around, etc.

I think that kind of understanding of alphaness is weak, and counter-productive.

I recently accepted alphaness back into my identity after leaving it by the wayside for a long time. What caused me to do this is a new understanding of what real lady killers mean by being alpha.

It means two things:

Leadership – leading women to sex

You are the one taking the lead, especially during anything going on before the first lay. You have to develop this willingness to step-up in all situations, so that in these important ones you actually have the drive to do it.

You lead an approach, you lead the escalation, you lead her to isolation, you take all the social risks (showing interest, going for kiss, etc), and then you lead an extraction.

Leading women is simply the only way you can provide her with the hot sex she really desires. 99.9% of the time a girl will not have the ability/willpower/confidence/whatever to overcome her own social bullshit (ASD) and make sex happen; even though in her mind she is basically begging to the gods that it will.

Remember your AFC days when you would beg in your mind about some girl you like… “Please let her notice me, please let her notice me.” but there’s no way in hell back then you would have had the balls to walk up and tell her that you’d love to fuck her.

Well ASD is just like that. The chick is saying “please let him lead me away and fuck me, please let him lead me away and fuck me.”. But there is no way in hell she will be able to verbalise that or make it happen without your Alpha leadership.

Determinism – maintaining the integrity of your lead

You take full responsibility for the consequences of your lead. If you take the chick to another room in the club and it’s loud, sweaty, and uncomfortable; then you fucking deal with it. You find a way around it, you ignore it, or whatever, but its your situation which you created and you will take responsibility for that. This goes all the way from situations like this, to ultimately taking responsibility for the fact that you fucked her brains out – therefore it’s all your fault that she had multiple orgasms with some random club dude; again we’re protecting them from their own ASD.

Nothing gets in your way – you remain unphased and goal-focused. You can and will if necessary stand alone for your beliefs and your cause; even if a room full of people tries to subdue you.

You are not only persistant in your goals, but also you throw yourself into them with full pelt. This is determinism.

When you approach a girl on the dance-floor by grabbing her hand you do not pat her hand lightly and wait for her to clasp back – that actually does work very rarely but it’s weak as fuck.

You fucking GRAB her hand and MAKE her turn around, then you TELL her to spin and after she complies you PULL her into you. You do this shit with a kind of masculine determination.

The “why” isn’t so important in this case, it probably goes back to some pre-seeded evolved circuitry in the amydla which is about her determining that if she goes off with you that you can kick the shit out of anyone who tries to mess with either of you.

What do chicks do in order to see that you have this quality? They poke at your integrity with something we call “shit-tests”.

Best way to deal with that shit? Develop genuine determinism. Unphased, goal-focused, ignore her shit, lead her strong.

I remember reading a BradP report where he gets all the way to the chicks house, it looks like the chick is going to not let him in. Then he comments his thoughts at the time, “… I was 100% prepared to go back to the club.” Of course 5 minutes later she is sucking him off in her apartment.

Give her the sexual adventure that she has been dreaming of for years.

You have a willingness to step-up
You take the lead
You take responsibility
You lead with determination

You get laid

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