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by SteviePUA

I remember being a teenager walking around the local shopping mall and seeing girls all dressed up in sexy clothes. They were made up, wore revealing clothes, great looking hair, do you know the type? You’d see one and your head would turn by itself almost. And I felt incredibly FRUSTRATED because I thought I had nothing of equivalence to offer. I couldn’t wear the same sexy clothes, I couldn’t wear make up (not that I really wanted to!), and I couldn’t make people attracted to me like those super sexy girls could. What the hell did I have to offer? I was a boy.

*Fast Forward*

Today, since getting into the game in the late 90s, I have learned TONS of things that I never knew in my teenage years. One major revelation was that as a guy I CAN project high value, much as those super sexy girls did to me all those years ago. How does a guy project that kind of value? And this IS all about value. He does it through his behaviour, and to a lesser extent status. Using the techniques of the game, we can project very high value to girls once the dynamics are understood.

Why do so many guys pay BIG money for workshops? We are talking, literally thousands of dollars sometimes! It is because they cannot convey value to girls. The answer to creating value is largely an ability to APPROACH and ENGAGE long enough to display personality.

Sure, you have to HAVE a personality to begin with but I sincerely believe most people DO have interesting ideas and aspects of their lives which, if conveyed effectively, are of interest to other people. Part of the skills needed is to calibrate and notice what the other person responds well to. I have developed a technique of early on circling through topics while quickly calibrating for a ‘hit’, i.e. a response (conscious or unconscious) from the person I am interacting with which indicates I have gained a potential in-road into their experience of life and into what is important for them.

The other major understanding is that the very act of non-needily approaching and interacting with a target can demonstrate the same high value to a girl as those sexy girls back in my teenage years demonstrated to me. Being able to open, engage and subcommunicate value through your communication is, in many ways, the EQUIVALENT of displaying sexiness which we see in a HB.

It is not exactly the same though, because whereas we can see a HB and KNOW immediately that she is desirable through how she looks – her body, her face, her age etc, a girl can’t be quite sure that the guy in front of her is as confident and cocky or as genuine (substitute other valuable qualities here at will) as he appears to be at first look. Sure, they will check out how you look, but believe me, how you look is MUCH less important to most girls than you’d think. It’s amazing how they can overlook average looks if you have ‘alpha’ behaviour.

Look at Pete Docherty. He was shagging Kate Moss. Pete is a really average looking guy. He is much uglier than yours truly. Kate wouldn’t look at him if she didn’t know he was a bad boy rock star. It is his behaviour and status that appeal. He is cocky and confident and makes her feel good (sometimes!). Sure he has social status, but so does the PUA in the club who uses rules of social dynamics to create social proof for himself that very night.

To be sure you have value, the girl can ask her friends if you are a famous rock star, she can ask about your job, she can see which car you drive OR test you behaviourly to see if you are really the person you initially came across as. Testing is a GOOD sign. It shows she is thinking of you in a sexual way. Did you ever see a HB shit-test an old guy in his 80s with a walking stick who talks to her in public?

No way!

If she is testing YOU it is a sign that she sees you have sexual potential and wants (usually unconsciously) to find out if you truly are confident, persistent, strong and a real man. She hopes, secretly that you will pass these tests so you can confirm to her that you have all those qualities that she looks for in a real man. Once you are perceived as having those personal qualities which turn her on so strongly, it often doesn’t matter that you lack the Ferrari. The fast car was only ever a shortcut mechanism for screening for value anyway.

The first of these ways of conveying this high personal value is being able to approach and engage her. By not doing this you are showing lesser value. By come across as needy or nervous when you engage her, you are showing lesser value. By not knowing how to keep the conversation going or by wimping out of a close when the time is right, you are showing lesser value. By failing to pass shit tests you are showing lesser value (even if this includes calling her on them or plain ignoring them).

Do the reverse of these and you are in a position to be emanating value in much the same way as those super hot chicks do.

- SteviePUA

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