NEL Blog

by Shezz

JUST A PIECE OF MY MIND – A TESTIMONY IF YOU WILL

MOULD YOUR MINDSET AND BE THAT PRIZE…

There is one thing in life that cannot be changed by having millions of dollars or pounds

One thing that only being myself and using my own time can change to become a more socially developed man.

Sure if i was ugly and had billions of dollars in my account – i would have a facelift

If i was fat – i would have liposuction

If i had raggy clothes – id buy the clothes fit for a king.

But one thing cannot be changed by anything except a strong character and utter determination – Mindset.

Many examples and articles have been written on the subject – this may be just one of those articles – but before i made myself the person i am today – my outloom on life was somewhat abysmal.

My world was my bedroom – i would venture out to play sports, go to the gym – but i would hardly ever talk to girls – i was brought up with a Mindset that had me beleive that bringing a girl home may upset my mum or dad – sounds crazy, but i would never try to mack on any girls whatsoever – i didnt go out drinking or partying and my confidence around women was lower then whale dung.

I started work about 2 years ago and realised that for me to get anywhere in this world i would have to change my Mindset and outlook on the world. In all honesty im a good looking guy – 8 or 9 and lots of girls would come upto me and talk – im an intelligent kid – i can hold a mature conversation with the directors and chairman at my workplace easy – but before – even saying hello to a girl felt like i was about to put my life on the line.

Of course writing this now makes me understand just how silly i was being back there – not being confident and talking to a lady fluently dosnt make you look like that shy guy that women think is cute – it makes you look like an idiot.

If you were talking to a man – and all he could do was look at the floor and mumble, you would think that you were talking to a damn clown – youd walk away and chances are you wouldnt speak to him again.

So alas! The time came when i decided enough was enough, this skin that i was wearing, this fungus that had taken over my brain the past 16 years had to be exterminated – i had to get a life – but where to start??

Where to start indeed?…………Party my freind excalims – are you coming – there will be loads of girls there! and beer!

This was it – my opportunity to start to mature into a Socially mature man.

I did a lot of thinking before that party – and the two days that i used wisely – put my life into perspective.

There are people in the world who have no water, no food, no shoes or clothes, no home, no family, some are blind, some deaf, some scarred, disfigured, maimed, some morbidly obese, some with eating disorders, some people have disease – that puts there life in doubt from day to day – yet one thing interconnects all of these people together – the desire for pleasure.

No matter how far there lives have fallen, how lonely or melancholy they are feeling – one thing still drives us on – Pleaure.

The reason all of these people survive and drive onwards is because of there Mindset – sure a fat, disfigured person can look in the mirror and see a inhumane, sorry sight who ladies would not look twice at – but my altering his mind – he could change his life forever. Think about your self for a moment and what women are in your range.

Do you have any of the aforementioned symptoms – or are you a good looking, freindly, but socially inept person.

One thing that i deliberately did not mention was the reason that makes going out there and getting the HB’s into your life.

It is the one thing that i think of when i go out each day – people are people, unless they are disfigured or challenged – they have eyes, legs, ears, noses, arms, mouths, hearts and brains – we use all of these things everyday of our lifes – but which ones do we underuse the most?

When it comes to women a lot of guys dont use their brains which means that the words coming out of their mouths are drivvle. Think about it – your attempting to talk to lady, but yet you feel like an idiot! Your scared! Unsure of what she thinks of you – but in reality the mere fact that you are even talking to her as differentiated you from most men that have looked at her today.

Do you get hot and flustered when you talk to your mother? (i seriously hope not or you need help)

NO – because you know that she dosnt think your a weirdo, idiot, ugly, fat, – she may infact think all of these things about you (slim chance) but the mere fact that you think, therefore your Mindset takes over your body and states that this women – your mother is just a person in the world who needs to be talked to!

Everyone in the world needs to be talked to, imagine a world where everyone didnt have a mouth, scary thought – imagine if tomorrow – you were in a serious accident which ripped away your power of speech or even worse your life.

This is what i thought of for those two days, people all over the world, no matter what race, religion, height, weight, looks, hair colour have a voice that needs to be heard – its simple.

I nearly burst into laughter thinking about how scared i was to open my mouth and try to chat to a girl, thinking about how scared i was to tell my parents i had a girlfriend. Hell those two guys must have gone at it like rabbits in there younger days – or i wouldnt be here!

If your shy, unconfident or have any other feelings of frustration that prevents you from talking, dating and laying women then it is time to change your Mindset.

Its not about What you are, Its Who you are – you could be a race care driver – but if you had no confidence or lacked a positive attitude you will always finish last or even worse crash.

Your outlook can be changed in a minute – just THINK! How simple life with women can be if you change your mindset – a lot of my friends who have been laying chicks for years often ask me for advice on how i am so confident – what do i tell them?

I am a person who loves life, loves to talk and socialise with people – because thats what life is about.

Men and Women are LIFE! If there wasnt any people on the planet then there would be no life (micro organisms excluded).

The development of the world is not through technology, it is through the people that invent, create and absorb and use information gathered through the power of speech.

I often see men scowling at ugly, fat, disfigured, older men attemting to chat up young ladies

Young Man: look at that idiot – what has he got that i havent? Stupid idiot!

ME: Hes got confidence, hes got motivation, hes got ballz and hes got a Mindset that states to him that life is meant to be enjoyed – while your standing there scowling – you could be furthering yourself socially by talking to that women over there – why else would they come to the bars in a short skirt and bra?

Young man: Yea – id give her a right bonking.

Me: Yes you would, but you wont!

YM: Why the hell not?

Me: Well go talk to her then!

YM: I will later.

Me: Theres no better time than the present, if not now…when!!!???

Through years and years and years of borrowed knowledge we devise pockets of thoughts that constantly run through our minds, jumping from one thought to the next, preventing us from living in the real world.

Most people today are living in the mind like they are the mind or like the mind is them – when actually the mind is like the body – simply a tool. I have come to the conclusion that we are not the mind because we can witness are own thoughts and to witness your own dreams and thoughts then you must be separate from your mind – because you can only witness that which you are not.

Stop living in a dreamworld, stop living in the past, stop thinking about the future, live in the present or you wont live at all – because soon the present which we are in now will become memories and regrets and the future dreams will become the unfruitioned present – no different from what you are living in now

Your life will become a circle of lost hopes, bitter thoughts and lack of confidence – where the old, fat, scarred guys get the girls and you get your right hand.

Open Your eyes, open your heart and most importantly open your mind and mouth – use the gift that you have been given – theres no reason whatsoever why you cant get the girl of your dreams – except the cloud of doubt that hovers over your Mindset.
Changing your Mindset to become the PRIZE!!!
What do you think of when the word pricelessness pops up? Maybe its the Mona Lisa? Maybe it is the statue of the Thinker? Maybe it is a goose that lays golden eggs – with diamonds for yolk?

All of these things ‘could’ be classed as priceless – Could.

However while many men and women roam the planet searching desperately for their dream lover, dream car, dream necklace, dream home – their dreams hardly ever materialise – infact many a person will go through their whole life living a dream – they will die in a figment of their own imagination.

But what if you already possessed the most priceless object in the world, but yet you always overlook its potential, failing to open it to the fact that one day, in one minute you could wake up and realise that your dream has come true.

An everlasting cycle of wants, needs, greed and inhumane like activities veil our mind and help into peceiving the real world in which we live as some kind of sick cartoon, socialisation and bonding with the own members of our race as become an afterthought in a world plagued with selfishness and our own personal development – but when we actually try to develop ourselves – is that what we are really doing?

A lot has been said and written down in regards to personal fitness – an i am an avid beleiver in this – nothing beats a good sports session or workout, However – why is nothing done to improve the way we want to convey ourselves to other people – more importantly on this site – women?

The main percentage of guys coming on to the community usually start with a query entitled:

How do i talk to women?

Good conversation ideas anyone?

How do i make good, stimulating conversation with girls?

The list is endless!

But there is no article that anyone, anywhere at anytime can write to tell someone how to speak to women – Not even this one.

The person who is asking for help must himself look deep within his own heart, his own mind and find his own inner passion for life and for living it – women and every other thing will then fall into place. If a man lives his life without purpose, without a passion then he is living a lie, his life is a falsification of what could infact be a dream, but a dream that CAN be touched.

What do you do when you talk to a girl?

Fill in blank (in your mind- speak it out loud) ………………………….

You become nervous?
Welt up?
get flustered?
Hot?
Blabber?
Turn into a fool?
Think your a clown?

Analyse the glances of every women that talks to you – your thinking:

AFC: Oh no – shes looking at my hair – it must be bad
DJ: Yeaa – shes looking at my hair – and why wouldnt she?

AFC: Whys she staring at my face? Do i have a zit? oh no!
DJ: Thats it baby – check out the money maker!

AFC: She dosnt like me – she keeps looking away!
DJ: Whats up baby – my looks intimidate you?

At the end of the day – you can log onto your computers and search to your hearts content for tips on seduction, tips on romance, tips on conversation, tips on flirting – but the only real way to learn is to use the priceless material that you have been given.

Your life and the body that you live it in.

Stop trying to be something your not – we on this website collectively try to be Don Juan – the epic 16,000 line poem Don Juan was written by Byron – would people think you were foolish if you tried to live like Lord Byron?

Of course they would – they would think you were raving mad – becuase you have a life of your own to lead.

You cannot be something your not, you cant witness yourself, you can only be yourself – thats why you cant see your self without the aid of a mirrored surface.

But even those that realise that they are themselves and that they should lead their own lives still fall foul to the constant surge of non-stop thoughts that plague our mind on a daily basis.

These thoughts are the fantastical funghi that initiates the barrier that keeps us in Dream-World and stops us from being aware of our lives that we are living presently, because to us – our mind does not exist in the present world. The mind splits everything up into different segmentations.

Eg – The women that we see on a daily basis are no longer looked upon as reachable objects – for the average male – the untapped male – the male without a passion -they are dreams, that unfortunatley will never come true. But they can, and if the inner man, the man with a life is touched then they will.

Lots of articles are written but they arent required – i may sound like an hypocrite at this moment – but that is my view – my life is lived in the present, memories cannot be erased – and nor should they be, but they should not be a substitute for life. dreams cannot be stopped emerging and nor should they – but they too should feature only at times when the life you live now has become so good – that any dream could happen at this moment.

For many men in the community, no – for all the men – there dream is to have the dream women – many beleive they can – those are the ones that will and do get the women that they feel is a dream – but dreams evolve and so do the looks of women – so as the women evolve – our dreams are ensized by the thought of what we can have next.

However – while these men will and do get the women – more men wont and dont get them.

They are the ones that live life like a chore, no purpose and no passion when in there hearts this passion just needs to be ignited

Endless reading on these types of sites can and are beneficial – but at the end of the day – it is all words.

You can revise for an exam from the greatest literature in the world, but unless you digest that information and then divulge it – failure looms.

Think about your lives or better yet – your li(v)es – a constant blur of aesthetically pleasing, middle class men going about their lives like puppets – Women are there to be had – its so simple taht it pains me to write this type of stuff when its just so goddamn simple.

the only reason you make it hard to approach and date women is because of the cowardice from within, your evil self that takes over and tells you that you ae inferior -life is there to be lived so live it.

In London, Pakistan and NYC over the past several years – many peoples lives were taken through acts of atrocity and utter devastation – at least one person who lost there life im betting was living a lie – and was thinking that the dream he had of the lady at his office would come true tomorrow – not today – there always tomorrow – now he wont get that chance.

But you have – today, now – if there is someone that you like, love or wish to go out with – Tell them – dont ask like a child – you are a man – tell them your feelings -there are no tricks or magic wands – except you and your body and maybe your cheat sheet lol.

It is truly a gift – you are a gift – live life and smile – you never know whos day you are making by flashing a smile.

Dont waste your chance or your time.

Sarge On…