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A large number of the people who find the community were not doing too great for themselves when they found it – me, for one.

I was without style, unemployed, living in a tip, chain smoking, over-weight, only a handful of low-status friends, etc.

The mistake is to then dive right into the PUA stuff; start learning about and practicing approaching, openers, kino etc.

But you’re not ready for that – if YOU are new and YOU do not have your life in order then work on that first.

Techniques are useless if your voice is so unused that you sound like Mickey Mouse, and your pastie white skin is reflecting the club lights right into HB9GetAwayFromMe’s look of disgust.

Do yourself a favour and sort your life out first!

Health

Start eating a well balanced diet particularly high on fish, nuts, and berries. Consider taking some supplements for the vits you are most likely to be deficient in – around 70% of people are deficient in magnesium. Consider Zinc also to maximise testosterone production – and vitamin D tablets in the dark winter months.

If you’re particularly pastie – get some sun. If you can’t, get on a sun bed – just a light dose is fine.

Take up a physical hobby – preferably a regular team sport or a martial art. The Gym will work too, but there are many other benefits to martial arts such as confidence, voice projection, mental discipline, etc. Why not maximise your time?

Start washing regularly for god sake. One-two showers a day, clean thoroughly, wear nice smelling products. Every bit of hair on your body should be either trimmed or shaved, nowhere should it be “left to nature” unless you’re going for a ragged head hair/beard joke/look. Brush your teeth 3 times a day, use mouth wash, and chew gum after consuming things likely to cause bad breath – bad breath is a NUCLEAR set killer.

Quit Smoking. End of. You can do it. I did.

Style

There’s tons of articles on style already so I don’t want to dwell on it. Basically find some celebs you like, find loads of pics of them, and get “inspired” by their style. Buy clothes which FIT well.

Career

Get a job, then get a better job, then get a better job. If you are unhappy with your current job, start looking for a new one TODAY. You need to be a positive person in your work environment – it’s a crucial part of your psychological health as much as anything else. But also women have a 6th sense for this kind of shit. If you hate your 2-bit job women will smell you a mile off and run for the hills.

I was unemployed when I found the community. I since found a job and then changed jobs three times, each time increasing my salary and responsibility.

Communicative Expressiveness

Take 5-10 minutes a day to do some voice exercises, focus on VOICE STRENGTH at first. FORGET “Booming” voice, that’s bull anyway. Work on a STRONG TONALITY… ultimately high-pitched and vibrant is way more attractive and a fake-boomy voice.

Shout as LOUD as you can for 5-10 minutes a day… woop, howl, work-out some exercises or google them whatever… get a job where you talk a lot, talk a lot to your friends etc.. start going to loud clubs and shouting instead of whispering.. your voice will get a lot better in a relatively short time.

Spend another 5-10 minutes in-frontof the mirror… communicate with yourself… this is an awesome technique for body-language and facial expressiveness. Do this right after watching some alpha films and you’ll find yourself able to practice some new expressions – girls notice this shit big-time. IF you’re good at communicating in this way it says – “I’m a cool guy, I communicate A LOT.”

Friends

DITCH all the friends who do not support your self-development… I mean TOTALLY cut them off: delete off face-book, delete number, ditch them – they are gone from your life.

Make new ones… martial arts, new job, game dudes if necessary, expand social circle… always AIM to make friends with the coolest guys and the guys who are getting girls. Always be on the lookout to expand your social circle. In one year you can go form having 2-3 friends, to have 50+ with a circle of 10ish “best-friends”.

Done all that? Alright, you’re ready to go pull now. 

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