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by Shezz

I look around me, the fresh cool air blows in through my window, a banana skin lies sullen on my desk, a coffee mug stain is imprinted on my table, and dozens and dozens of notes on seduction lay scattered across my bed.

I look outside, the hustle and bustle of millions of people create a whirr of thoughts and cogitation in my head, it begs of me to ask the question…

What Have I Gained From This Site and What Do We Want To Be Able To Actually Access From It?

People are simple. Yes they are – People ARE simple.

Of all the races, in all the world, in all the universe – why is it that we have still failed to recoginize the potential that lies before our eyes.

Now, we all have different meanings and view of what this ‘Potential’ actually is, for some this may be:

- “An Excellent Sex Life”
- “A fabulous Job”
- “Great Health”
- “Strong Intellect”
- “Great Charisma”
- “Exceptional Social skills”
- “Adaptation Skills”
- “To be something, anything”
- “To HAVE a life worth living”

We all have a life – thats a no brainer, but how many of us actually LIVE a life? Not many.

For the majority of us, life is one big dream – something that can be passed through and will be good until its over – but we have no power over dreams, not consciously anyhow. If we look upon a dream as a kind of natural resource flowing within us, if we liken it to a river, a river shaped by our life experience, then its flow will not be changed simply by having someone on the shore urge a new direction on it. But if the person on the shore does the work necessary to make a change in direction possible, the flow will alter as desired. The point of the analogy is that there has to be more than conscious intent to influence the flow. There has to be a genuine emotional investment

So what are you getting at?

Let me explain.

I first started browsing this site some 2 years ago, never posting and always reading – i was a keyboard jockey – i never went out and sarged, i NEVER talked to strangers – i had no reason to, why did they want to talk to me?

I remember all those times when i would be walking through a shopping mall, and i would see that fat, ugly guy walking proudly with a girl who was indescribable, she was perfect – WHOA!! She just smiled at me (quick look away, look at the ground Shezz) ahhhh shes past, oof that was close! Im glad i didnt smile at the real sexy girl….wait….what am i talking about? I would stop, and look into the mirror like window of a passing shop, why am i so scared? Why cant i look people in the eyes, or smile, or talk to girls that i like, why havent i had a girlfriend and ive just turned 17!!!

I looked at myself again – acne plagued, puppy fat, shaved head, raggy clothes – do all these things make me look bad?….yes they..NO THEY DONT!!! WHY SHOULD THEY!?!?!

I cant control Acne – But i Damn Sure can beat it!!!
I can hit the Gym
I can get some new clothes
I can stop trying to be a white rapper and grow my hair!

Onwards i charged, digesting each of Pooks posts and combining them with Anti-Dumps, Vassagos, Krassus and the like – i started my progression to Shattering My Social Barrier.

1 Year passed, in that year id made some improvement – id made out with 5 girls!!! 5!!! – id beaten my acne finally – 7 years of treatment with Acid like creams and antibiotics had left my skin clear – i started to cherish that, id hit the gym, lost the puppy fat, my hair was stylish, but over all these things – the most important thing was that id changed my mindset and Shattered My Social Barrier.

Now, of this day – i have taken great strides to becoming the man i always wanted to be, and always knew i could be!

A plethora of Girlfriends, too-many, approaches daily – as if just natural, but more than anything – my mindset has truly evolved to be that of a true Alpha-Male, sure, i take care of my looks and style – but there are always going to be better looking guys than me, this is where I and YOU truly stand out – by recognizing that LOOKS dont matter – and that INNER game truly separated the men from the boys.

KNOW WHO YOU ARE FIRST, THEN USE YOUR INNER GAME TO YOUR FULLEST.

Theres nothing better than getting the better of a great looking guy (10) who has no ballz by using your PU Skills – when you get to that stage, its just unbeleivable – i believe that is the stage where you truly start to evolve.

THE SOCIAL BARRIER

My social barrier, OUR social barrier, develops over time – we arent born with it, we natural develop it – through years of distasteful talk regarding sex and the opposite sex, we develop a social barrier that nullifies our ability to approach, talk, and control the flow of conversations with the opposite sex without becoming flustered and nervous. Everyone does, it seems that these days – becoming nervous around girls is the most common disease of all – affecting probably 95+% of the male species, but what can you do to tackle this problem.

THERE IS NO MAGIC PILL

Go ahead, read, read, read, read, read – your knowledge on seduction and your overall intelligence will improve, you’ll gain useful insight onto WHY you can’t approach women, or even say Hi to strangers in the street – EXCELLENT ISNT IT! NO! ITS NOT!

No one ever learned to be a master PUA by just reading hoodlums of pages of seduction literature….without putting in the effort to get out and use it.

Ok, ok – this is a common statement. AND SO IT SHOULD BE!!!
IT IS ‘THE’ STATEMENT!!!

There is no success, there is no SHB, there is no FB, or glorious LTR without the input, without the commitment – without the FAILURES!!!

As mystery puts it: “There is no failure, Only Feedback” – this is so true it hurts, stamp it into your brainstem, write it on your wall and get out and DO!!!

There is not enough time to sit around and watch the world go by, there isnt enough time to watch your life crumble – as you yet again fail to approach that Girl that you really like, and really feel like you could make a relationship with or have for a fvck buddy.

To take some more advice from mystery – we are put on this world to primarily survive, and to survive we must come together as a race…and replicate!! YES – HAVE SEX!!!

Can we do this, this Natural process by sitting indoors and imagining this dream, and instead – ignore the scientific theories and TAKE CONTROL OF THIS DREAM!!!

What stopping you? Yes, right now what is stopping you from standing up, walking outside and approaching the first HB that you see?

SHATTER THE SOCIAL BARRIER!!!

Each one of our lives is shrouded in a veil, this dosnt obscure our movement, our sight, our smell – it obscures our Mindset! It is the thing that stops us from carrying out everyday, friendly, HUMAN activities in a natural way.

People are shy. Yes, People are shy and scared – Wellll, i dont know that person walking towards me, i shouldnt look at her or say hi incase she just ignores me!! REALISE THIS!! PEOPLE CARE, THEY WANT TO BE NOTICED, THEY WANT TO BE SEEN AND LOVED AND SEDUCED – EVERYDAY OF THEIR LIVES, THEY WANT TO HOLD CAREERS, HAVE HOUSES, CARS, PETS, GOOD FOOD – BUT ABOVE ALL ELSE – THEY WANT TO BE HAPPY, HEALTHY AND LOVED – THEN AND THEN ONLY CAN THEY ACHIEVE SELF-ACTUALISATION THAT THEY ARE THE PERSON THEY WERE BORN TO BE.

When im in my car – I wave to everybody, i shout to girls out of the window, i sing at the top of my lungs – Does that make me a bad person? LOL

Women wake up everyday, some 2 hours earlier than they should – to apply makeup, to pick out the best outfit, to select the best perfume – in hopes that this will be the day that the guy from her office, or the kid in gym class, or the old guy in the corner of the retirement home, or that perfect man…will walk into her life, grab his ballz and make her his!

DONT WAIT – INITIATE!!!

You there! Yes you, reading this thread – let me ask you a question…wait wait….i know you might be getting tired of reading but please – look back towards the screen.

Now – You know that girl who you really like, the one that whenever you see, you get butterflys in your stomach and your throat closes up, and your heart beats a mile a minute – yea you know!

How would you feel if you saw, one day – an ugly looking dude walk upto her, talk to her and get her phone number?

EXACTLY! Whos to blame? Take a look in the mirror mate – its that guy, that chump who was too scared to talk to an harmless little girl, a women whose biggest weapons are her milk sacks hanging from her chest – Does that scare you?

We are put here for a reason, YOU are put here for a reason! Dont waste the chance that you have been given.

Everychance that you waste…is another part of your life destroyed, be that career wise, health wise or sex wise.

- Get out and do!

Try and Fail, Try and Fail and eventually you will reap the rewards of your hardwork, you will reap the rewards of LIFE.

Know what you want, Know who you are…And laugh at all those people who mocked you or are too scared to get what THEY really want in life.

Be the exception…

Enter Mr N.Egative

Lovely post, Shezz. Thumbs up!

What if she does not give me her number then? I turn back to this forum and search for another of your deep and inspiring posts about not indulging to desperation?

Nobody of us will get what he’s looking for. Slowly and painfully, maybe without even noticing it, we’re all bound to mediocrity.

We’re just lying our way out of desperation. I’m so tired of faking charme and confidence. I would like to be loved and cherished for the person I am, not the stereotyped, fake, dull Alpha-male I learned to be by reading all this propaganda.

The truth is that we’re all shallow beings. Girls and boys are quite the same about this. Love, affection and sex are not connected with intelligence or wit, neither with cocky and funny sarcarm nor with framing. It’s just an instinct, which nobody can control. This is why you cannot force nobody to love you.

I’m not saying that your post is useless Shezzler, but I’m sick and tired of all this synthetic optimism. Who said universe should be fair?

…maybe I’m a bit depressed today. It’s safe to stop here. I don’t wanna start flame-wars or such things.

Sarge on… (which means stopping people by the street and ask their number after a minute? Frenetic, shallow and useless world we live in.

But alas – Here comes the Shezz!

The crowd gasps!!!

No body ever said that Life was going to be fair! But by standing aside and watching other people live their lives. take their opportunites and yours – then it becomes a problem.

Sure, you can read all the ‘Propaganda’ that you wish to read, it will give you a quick fix of egoistical confidence, but until you step out into the real world, away from the thousands of seduction and motivation related threads – you will never progress past the point where you are faking.

Where in this post did i say anything about faking life? I never fake my life – life shouldnt be treated as one big lie, it should be lived as on giant Truth!

Love, Affection and Sex arent connected to Wit or Intelligence? I have to disagree with you here my friend, how can you say this? Depending on the type of love – you are right, but since we are here on a seduction website – then Love, Sex and Affection IS connected with Wit and Intelligence – if your saying that it isnt then i believe that you are referring to those three componentes relating to Looks?

Sure – Looks are attractive, and girls are attracted to good looking guys and vice versa – does this mean all is lost for those people who arent good looking? Hell No!!!

By developing your mind, your body and adapting to the world around you – you will become a much more attractive figure in life -as you categorically questioned – who said the universe should be fair? No one!

How can you justify this question against the fact that you are complaining that no-one loves you for who you really are!

Because no-one knows WHO YOU REALLY ARE!!! EXCEPT YOU!!!

That is where YOUR wit, YOUR intelligence and YOUR personality is used to seduce women – thats how women love YOU for who YOU really are!!!

No one will get what hes looking for? Bound for mediocrity? Thats rubbish and you know it – you sound like a guy low on confidence, not just around girls but in life as a whole.

There are no quick fixes, no magic pills and until you realise this, that no WEBPAGE can get you what you are looking for – then and only then can you hope to evolve out of this mediocre rusk of a life that you find yourself in.

Sarging is not just going up to a girl on the street and asking for her number.

Its going out with the intent of meeting women and getting to know them, by the process of elimination – and in all our hearts we all seek that one, that one woman who will love us and cherish us for who we are – thats what sarging is, demonstrating to a women just who you are and finding out about her in return, by means of seduction tactics – not only ones that are tried and tested but through ones that you yourself have invented.

Mr N.Egative Feels Angry – he throws back his head and retorts

You’re quite right Shezzler… but I’m so tired, I’ve been getting so many rejections lately. And you know what bothers me more. It’s not the rejection in itself, but the immense burden of ipocrisy that comes with it.

“I’m just having a bad time, I cannot have a boyfriend…”

“I’m a lesbian…”

“You’re not my type…”

“What the fvck did you just say?”

…I know that, by process of elimination, I’ll find someone, but when we get something after such a long streak of failures, we’re going to never be able to accept to lose it when it will be the time… I don’t know if you can understand this. I’m just tired of all this game – it’s too difficult, why is it so easy for someone that is so shallow and it’s so hard for someone as intelligent, deep and profound about myself?

You’re right indeed, Shezzler, so right it hurts, but I’m just tired today. I hope you all can cope with that. I like to consider you as friends. I rely on friends when I’m feeling bad. So please don’t be mad at my random rants.

And no, I haven’t got low self-esteem. My looks are not bad (4.3 on Hotornot, I must be pretty hot! ), I speak five foreign languages, can discuss any issue you can imagine without problems, and I’m going to be an aerospace engineer in about six months… I’m the best a girl could desire, I think. That’s not self-esteem. It’s that I don’t have the utter esteem in all this seduction thing. We’re making an intellectual war out of an elementary thing. Our culture ruined much of this.

By the way…

Oh yeah, sarge on…

Shezz retakes the Lectern

I sense an overwhelming thickness of sarcasm dripping from your words, aswell as the fact that underneath it all – there seems to be a contrived flame against me.

We are your friends man!

And your right about the fact that we are making an intellectual war out of somthing that is so natural and so easy that it is damn near destroying our social pockets that exist, there is no togetherness between us as a whole race anymore, different segments exist upon different continents – racial segregation separates us and often ends up weakening our bonds, we all have the same blood colour – why is there so much hatred, this hatred all congeals and conspires in escalation towards other areas of life – seduction, health, careers – eventually, If we as a race and WE as INDIVIDUALS dont step up to the plate that is life, then social programming will eventually turn us all socially inept.

Good Luck in Your search

Stand And Fight!!! Enter Mr.AFC!!!

Shezz
I have to say, my thoughts at the moment are along the same lines as Mr N.Egatives (almost exactly) whereas I’m not being rejected, I’m just never trying.
I’d really love to hear from you what encouraged you to motivate yourself to change from a shy person (am I correct in saying this?) to a free, outgoing person. What went through your mind that made you change yourself, what images did you have in your mind when you changed, what were they like? How did you force yourself to overcome that first hurdle?

I have great plans for my life, it’s just taking action on my goals and believing that they’ll bring me happiness that’s the problem.

Shezz is almost spent, the AFCs relentlessness to Sarge is mindnumbing – but he takes to the stand one last time

There comes a point in every persons life where they say…Enough is Enough.

Your right, i was shy, i was socially inept – and the change all came down to one thing and one thing only – my lack of ability with women – upto the age of 17.5 – i never even held hands with a girl – Do you know how heart breaking and demoralising that can be on a kid that already as self-esteem issues? Most guys will be able to connect with that – some being bullied, some lightly teased, not fitting in, acne – not having as much stuff as other kids – getting teased for that?

This dosnt matter – but for kids growing up – ITS HARD NOT FOR IT TO MATTER!!!

How the hell can they become PUA’s when they can’t even pick up their own life? Its emotional torture, why should they try? People make them look ridiculous without the attempts – so any attempts at talking to girls will be scorned..SURELY?

Remember how, the hottest girl of the school looks at you like your some kind of stud, she likes you – YES SHE DOES, but social programming throughout life and in the tiny oyster that is school as taught that hottie that going after the nerdy guy – no matter how good looking he is -HE IS THE NERDY GUY!

Society has programmed it – He has defined it!

To overcome this barrier, that guy must overcome the veil that clouds his mindset -he must become the prize, he must know that HE IS THE PRIZE – thats what i did.

I went out and talked to strangers – greeted them – it was hard, DAMN HARD! BUT IT MUST BE DONE!
I went to clubs – at first i sucked, it took me around 2 months to get good at club approaches! But i wanted to get good! So i did! I worked hard on my inner game, something that i had long neglected – outer game is just a little piece!

Its all about WHAT YOU WANT in life – and if that thing That YOU want isnt enough to instill the will, the determination and drive into you – then nothing is.

It is hard, life is hard – but thats what makes it so fun – its a game! and every step should be enjoyed – fuck what anyone else thinks!

YOU are the prize -get out and live like it!

Sarge On…

With that, Shezz disappeared into a cloud of smoke…The Nightclubs were open – and while the AFCs continued to ignore, and read on – he went out and sarged

-Shezz

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