Comments on: The secret of human bipolarness http://www.northenglandlair.com/blog/the-secret-of-human-bipolarness/ Latest news and wisdom from the NEL Thu, 18 Jun 2009 11:34:41 +0100 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: The REAL Magic Pill!! http://www.northenglandlair.com/blog/the-secret-of-human-bipolarness/comment-page-1/#comment-173 The REAL Magic Pill!! Thu, 18 Jun 2009 11:34:41 +0000 http://northenglandlair.com/blog/?p=100#comment-173 [...] When it seems like progress is slow, think about all the things you can do now that you never used to be able to. Then reflect on the problems you were facing 6-3 months ago, notice how they are less-advanced than the ones you are facing now. Also, remember this - http://www.northenglandlair.com/blog/the-secret-of-human-bipolarness/ [...] [...] When it seems like progress is slow, think about all the things you can do now that you never used to be able to. Then reflect on the problems you were facing 6-3 months ago, notice how they are less-advanced than the ones you are facing now. Also, remember this – http://www.northenglandlair.com/blog/the-secret-of-human-bipolarness/ [...]

]]> By: RagsToRiches http://www.northenglandlair.com/blog/the-secret-of-human-bipolarness/comment-page-1/#comment-162 RagsToRiches Fri, 05 Jun 2009 09:15:42 +0000 http://northenglandlair.com/blog/?p=100#comment-162 Good points mate, particularly about the "offnights getting better." It was not too long ago I remember my off nights being 8 pints, no approaches (maybe 1-2 shitty ones), and walking home at 2am feeling like a sack of shit. This was only back in Feburary/March last year. Sometimes you just have to look in your recent past to see how much you've improved. I had an offnight on Wednesday. ~10 sets, one beer, and a couple of probable SNL ops which I didn't lead well enough. Wow... a night like that I would have only drempt of last year really. Good points mate, particularly about the “offnights getting better.”

It was not too long ago I remember my off nights being 8 pints, no approaches (maybe 1-2 shitty ones), and walking home at 2am feeling like a sack of shit. This was only back in Feburary/March last year.

Sometimes you just have to look in your recent past to see how much you’ve improved.

I had an offnight on Wednesday.

~10 sets, one beer, and a couple of probable SNL ops which I didn’t lead well enough.

Wow… a night like that I would have only drempt of last year really.

]]> By: Ty http://www.northenglandlair.com/blog/the-secret-of-human-bipolarness/comment-page-1/#comment-161 Ty Thu, 04 Jun 2009 19:19:48 +0000 http://northenglandlair.com/blog/?p=100#comment-161 Totally agree man. For those who want to go more into this I'd recommend reading 'Mastery' by George Leonard, it covers the kinds of peaks and troughs you go through, persistence etc. A sense of perspective definitely helps in all this, being able to take the off-nights as just that. If I have one bad night it doesn't even bother me, I fully accept it's just a bad night (going out 3+ nights a week helps with this). However you do need to know when some help is needed, and for this I have a rule of three. If I have 3 consecutive really bad nights/weeks/whatever, it means something's genuinely up and it's time to hit the theory. A system like this helps avoid knee-jerk reactions to bad nights, but helps me cut off problems before they get too bad. Tim over at RSD has an interesting point about this: the bad nights get better. The bad nights you have starting out might be getting blown out 20 times in one night, the bad nights you have 3 years in might be struggling past LMR or going for that threesome. I'd go even further than this though. I think once you've got some years under your belt your 'bad' nights are actually better than the average or even good nights starting out. On bad day now I'm still waay more pimp than I was 3 years back. Totally agree man. For those who want to go more into this I’d recommend reading ‘Mastery’ by George Leonard, it covers the kinds of peaks and troughs you go through, persistence etc.

A sense of perspective definitely helps in all this, being able to take the off-nights as just that. If I have one bad night it doesn’t even bother me, I fully accept it’s just a bad night (going out 3+ nights a week helps with this). However you do need to know when some help is needed, and for this I have a rule of three.

If I have 3 consecutive really bad nights/weeks/whatever, it means something’s genuinely up and it’s time to hit the theory. A system like this helps avoid knee-jerk reactions to bad nights, but helps me cut off problems before they get too bad.

Tim over at RSD has an interesting point about this: the bad nights get better. The bad nights you have starting out might be getting blown out 20 times in one night, the bad nights you have 3 years in might be struggling past LMR or going for that threesome.

I’d go even further than this though. I think once you’ve got some years under your belt your ‘bad’ nights are actually better than the average or even good nights starting out. On bad day now I’m still waay more pimp than I was 3 years back.

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