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by Guitar_Whizz

Note: this is a somewhat controversial post (see discussion link at the end), and Guitar_Whizz makes the following note before reading:

“I would just say to people reading my post this – at the end of the day you can date/kiss/shag/marry whoever you want (as long as they’re legal of course!) and part of being alpha is doing what you like and making your own rules and realities. The points I made in the post are a rough guide, and I hope they heighten peoples’ awareness, however the final judge of whether you get with a girl is you.”

Ok guys, I’ve been meaning to write this post for a while. What I want to discuss is the subject of having standards and not just going for any girl. Basically, as a PUA you should see yourself as a man of high value – you are the prize the girl has to win over. And as you get more ‘tuned in’ to the dating game and become more socially aware, you will start to realise that there are only certain types of girl you will want to date (be it casually, for a relationship or just for a one night stand). I’m talking about personality type mainly, but obviously certain looks of girl want to be avoided too. You will see that most girl just don’t live up to your standards, and you will move on to another girl.

You see, when you’re an AFC, you look at every girl and wish you could be with her, even if she’s got a messed up personality and treats you like sh*t etc. You are just desperate to be with a girl. You will put up with all sorts of bad behaviour from a girl, simply because you know you can’t get anyone else.

But when you become a PUA, you see the bigger picture and start to see what faults certain girls have. After a while you will be able to spot the faults immediately and you can ditch the girl and find another.

So here is a list of the personality types/traits you should avoid. When you’re talking to a girl, you want to be screening for any of these things….if you notice any of these traits, ditch the girl and move on to find someone better:-

LSE (Low Self Esteem) Girls

A girl with low self-esteem will generally have very low self confidence and not like herself very much. This type of girl will often have a negative persepective on life, and that negativety can drag your mood down when you’re with her. LSE girls also cannot find their own source of happiness from within, so they look for a guy to make them happy and to lift them out of their negative state. This results in them being really clingy, over jealous and very needy. And to top it off, they can be prone to moodiness and being over-emotional (as if girls in general aren’t overly-emotional enough. If you notice a girl is an LSE girl, run a mile!

Ugly older/middle-aged women dressed like 19 years olds

When you start going to bars and clubs, you’ll notice an alarming array of women in their late 30s or 40s, or even 50s who insist on dressing in skimpy outfits and act as though they are about 19 years old. Now, if these women were in good shape then you might want to consider a fling with them like a MILF (mother I’d like to f*ck) sort of thing. But the sad reality is, most of these women are DOG UGLY and usually very ‘common’ to talk to. They’re almost OBLIVIOUS to how ridiculous they look, dressed in the way they do at their age. They’re also VERY easy to pull, and will often make the first move on you. Since they’re older and ugly, they won’t be getting much male attention, therefore will be ‘desperate’ for any action. I personally couldn’t stomach shagging one of these types of girl, and would recommend you avoid them at all costs.

Any girl with a ‘rough’ or ‘common’ or ’scally’ sort of look or vibe about her

Depending on where you go, you’ll often meet girls in bars who are really dogged in looks, and a bit ‘thick/common or rough’ in a scally sort of way. For the most part, these are the types of girl who live in the rough council estates, who don’t have a job and claim every state benefit under the sun. You don’t want to waste your time or associate with this type of girl – they’re scum, trust me. Not only that, but since they’re dirt poor, they will expect you to pay for everything. You’ll also NEVER have any kind of meaningful or stimulating conversation with this girl type. Avoid avoid avoid!

Girls who are bitchy for the sake of being bitchy

I’m sure you’ve met the type – those ‘man haters’ who insist on being as rude to every guy as they possibly can. Now I know that most girls have a bitch shield to some extent, and that if you’re a PUA you should be able to break that shield down, BUT there are certain girls out there who are just plain bitches for the sake of it. If you meet one of these types of girls, and nothing you’re doing works, politely wish her a nice evening and move on.

Girls who seem a bit too ‘meek’ or nervous or generally a bit ‘dull and boring’.

You’ll run into this type from time to time – a girl who is probably a good character and maybe even has a good career or whatever going for her, but who is just a bit too ‘meek’ and ‘unfun’ to be with. She may even be good looking, but she is too much of the ‘good girl’ and not really willing to just let go and have fun. I personally wouldn’t date a dull girl like this.

Fat Girls

Do I REALLY need to tell you why you should not be with this type of girl! One other reason why you should avoid being seen with a fat girl, though, is because it will give you BAD social proof. If guys or other girls see you with a fatty, they may see you as lower status because they will think you can’t get anyone else.

Married Women

Now I know that many, many married women will happily shag an alpha/high status male such as us, but do you really want the hassle and the feeling of guilt that goes along with this? I personally don’t see the point in bedding a married chick when there are millions of single, horny girls I could bed instead. But hey, I’m not trying to preach to you – if you want to bag a married woman, that’s your choice. Just beware there could be consequnces if it goes wrong!

Any girl who is just trying to play games or take you for a ride

As a PUA, you should quickly be able to spot this type of girl and move on quickly with your dignity intact. Girls of this type often chat to a guy and try to use him to buy drinks for her, with no intention of kissing or bedding him. Sometimes you’ll find girls who will talk to you, yet have boyfriends in the bar or at home and lead you on and then get their boyfriend to ring you and threaten you. Now I admit this is extremely rare, but you need to be able to spot this type of situation and then leave before it gets any worse. Don’t rise to it, just walk away and find another girl. You might also run into girl who inisist on flirting with you and even arrange a date, but then always pull out at the last minute – not good. They’re just playing games for the sake of it and get a kick out of doing so. As a PUA, you turn it back on her by ignoring her and flirting with other girl in front of her – what how her IL goes up immediately!

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Now those are the main types I think should be avoided, but I’ll add to this if I think of any more. So now you’re probably asking ‘I’ve screened out all those tyoes, now what type of girl SHOULD I be dating?’.

I think you should be looking for a girl that you’re physically attracted to for a start, And then you want someone who is ‘on your level’, not someone thick or who ‘doesn’t get it’ when you flirt with her. You want a girl you can flirt with who will flirt back, someone who is responsive to kino, someone you can be fun and playful with you yet still be able to have a deeper rapport type conversation with, someone who is not too needy and who you can generally relax and enjoy being with. You want a girl who adds a POSITIVE experience to your life, NOT someone who is high maintenance and a chore to be with.

So if there are so many types you should avoid, is it a lost cause trying to find a decent girl? No! After a while you’ll VERY QUICKLY be able to spot the types I discussed above to avoid, and you’ll KNOW when a girl you’re chatting to falls into the ‘type I should be with’.

Remember, you are the prize, so never settle for anything less than you deserve. You want a girl who lives up to your standards, so never lower yourself to a girl of lower value. Dating is a jungle, but if you follow the advice in this post, you’ll quickly be able to meet quality girls and weed out the psychos.

Best of luck,

Guitar_Whizz

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