Threads of Possibility
by SteviePUA
I have been asked me about uncanned material. Coincidently, I wrote about this a couple of days earlier to a guy asking about the same question. Part of being able to come up with things on the fly is training and trusting your unconscious to provide for you. For me I got tons of practice at my job of talking to people on the fly so that was a major help in being able to come up with things without having to think about them much. However, an accountant (I am NOT an accountant) could perhaps talk all day and bore people. The trick is to not only come up with stuff on the fly but also to make the subject matter you bring up seduction/PU oriented. Then when your unconscious provides for you, the stuff it comes up with is automatically in the right area for PU/getting closer to people.
One way I did this was to create a on-the-fly practice game involving cards. I used these to go from
1. Fluff
to
2. Theme
to
3. Pattern
There is a progression there from less personal to more personal. The aim (and this is indirect game) is to go smoothly into seductive/PU areas. Learning patterns off by heart and trancewords means I can pull out parts of them and slot them in to stuff I make up on the fly. Making this kind of speaking part of your everyday communication is important so you are not ‘doing something’, it is actually part of how you really think and speak.
Another thing I thought about which helps to be uncanned is what I have called “Threads of Possibility”. Here are my thoughts on this insight I had:
The secret is in training the unconscious mind to be able to link idea to other ideas as you are speaking. Think about when you are talking to someone, you not only have the ideas of what you are talking about, but you ALSO have other little threads of conversation which sit alongside the main thread. These are threads of possibility. Much of the time they never get explored.
When you are not scripting you have all the little threads which pop up but get shelved away usually because you are having a 50-50 conversation, so trying to meet the needs of the other person. Or you might be led BY the other person. Either way, your threads are dropped and remain unvoiced in the presence of the other person. Often they drop out of your consciousness forever or until sparked off by a related topic.
The secret is to explore these themes in the dominant frame of a PUA in the selling himself (creating value) stage where you are dominating in an elegant way, perhaps 70-30 or more. Then you make sure to get out these threads of possibility and getting them out triggers new threads of possibility.
The best way it works for me is to have a stock number of themes around which I can structure my stories and observations. I bring out ideas which I have experienced in life and take the emotions from those experiences and shift them into new stories and asides. Therefore there is congruence. I really am feeling some of what I felt in the past. It’s just that I perhaps repackaged them to fit the current situation – to make what I am saying ‘acceptable’ and likely to make an impact on the person it is targeted towards.
I think playing a practice game, either solo or with a partner, creating stories … noticing themes which you feel comfortable and are congruent with is a way to train your unconscious mind to provide for you. Then when out in the field you can fall back on these themes and repackage them to fit the context.
The openers I personally like best and find work for me best are situational/neutral entertaining openers – something shaped to fit the person I am talking with – something to put them at their ease and engage them and pull them into my world. To do this you need to start noticing things to comment on and packaging them in a way to engage the person, taking their current state into account.
By SteviePUA -
http://pua.zap.to