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Haaa, this is something that I used to get so much pre-PU. It’s when your out one night and you have some, typically two, ‘leads’ for pulling that night. Often the situation is, one is fitter than the other but the least fit one would be easier. And you try to stay on the fence and game the fitter one, thinking that you can move back to the easier option if you don’t make it all the way with your first choice. Then something happens and you can’t pull the fitter one, then immediately after you find you’ve lost your chance to pull the other, and the bottom line reason is, you spent too much time with the other girl and wasted the chance.

Even pre-PU, this has gotten me several times, and post-PU, it still gets me. Take last night as a completely random example of this. It was completely ON with one girl, a not great body but pretty face and lovely girl. She was drunk, all over me, all the kino signs were there (pushing breasts into me when talking, close talking, in my personal space a lot, cheeks touching when talking, no resistance to any kino from me), and she verbally stated she was into me. And she was very horny/psyched up. The other chick, was hotter, not as much fun in the student party time sense of the word but cool and I could have a cool conversation with her. At first I was thinking I’d go for the less hot one, but as soon as it became more-or-less a sure thing I started getting a bit greedy, and the above scenario played itself out.

What happened was, the less hot girl was picked up by someone else (literally about 20 seconds from him walking up to her to kissing her, and this guy was no PUA/model to give an idea of how horny she was!). Meanwhile, I just could not get the hot one into a useable state (don’t mean that to sound manipulative…I mean into a more excited/cheerful state), she was a pretty ‘cool’ character and probably needed lots of ‘trust and comfort’ game which I didn’t have the time or effort for.

My problem here, as it has been always, was that I wanted the easiness of one chick with the looks of the other, conveniently forgetting these are not contained within the same girl. You get a good chance with one girl and you forget that even if it’s ON, there is still work to do and you can’t leave her to her own devices in a club full of horny guys!

No longer will this happen! I have a new plan. Now, upon noticing the situation when it arises, I will make a choice based on the following factors – If I really just want a lay, I will simply go for the easier option and be happy with it. Such as if there has been a dry spell of new lays, I want to keep momentum going, or if I just want a down and dirty lay that night (my low standards are well documented), ie “take one for the scoresheet”. If I am happy with the current new lay situation, ie I am pulling pretty often, I will go for quality and forget the easy lay. For you, it may be different. You might have the gameplan “whichever girl is hottest I will go for, no matter what” or “whichever girl I enjoy talking to most is the one I will go for”. The point is that you have to have a decision rule for this situation, because indecisiveness has been thoroughly field tested and found to be maddeningly ineffective!