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This question seems so obvious that it doesn’t need asking. You want to be better with women, of course. But, if you go a little deeper than that and find out your real reasons, it’s going to benefit you. Not only will you’ll be more able to motivate yourself through KNOWING what motivates you, but this can actually affect the way you game and the results you get. Doubtful? Well NEL alumni Colonel will explain why this is, and ask you the questions you should be asking yourself.

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I was out on Saturday soing my usual thing, he was along for the ride as usual. He now has a GF so he doesn’t officially go sarging but he is excellent at keeping the sets entertained while I work on my target.

So I opened up a 2 set with some remarks about some of the weird people in the bar and the fact that she had a top on that I didn’t really like, my target is a HB7, we have a good convo and I knew that if I wanted to I could have escalated this thing and either got a day 2 or a shag.
My wing is keeping her friend entertained Instead I decide we are leaving, said bye, turned around and walk.

I actually liked this chick but it was early on, I didn’t get a number for use later? Why would I do this?

We saw the same chicks walk into the next bar and my wingman say’s, don’t speak to them, keep your head down.
He is cockblocking and the reason he is doing it is because he has a GF and thinks some of her friends may see us with these chicks, also because it’s early in the night he doesn’t want these girls with us all night which is understandable.

However, I listen to his bullshit and didn’t re-approach.

Later on another 2 set, another HB7. Again I know I can have this chick and yet again another ejection.

Later on again I am in a nightclub, my wing is at the bar and I am standing with 2 chicks that have been on my project list for some time. There’s a potential threesome or group sex situation, my wing knows this and in under these circumstances is playing along.

Then a random chick taps me on the shoulder, ‘will you fuck my friend’? I’m like who is your friend, she points her out, she’s a HB6, I say ‘do you want to fuck me’ she’s nods her head. I say ‘no thanks’ and turn round. What I should have done is said yes, grabbed her by the hand led her out of the club and fucked her.

The 2 threesome girls, I could have post-poned and they both know I have regular access to sex and go sarging every weekend. I have individually gamed each chick and both are individually keen, but I want the group scenario.

I then do a debrief the next day with my wing man and he says, “why did you eject on that first set and then not speak to them later”?
I said, “because you didn’t want me to speak to them”. He’s like “yes this is true but that was for my own selfish reasons if it was me I would have ignored you and gone for the f close”. He then said “I think the real reason is that you like gaming women and showing off and when you know you can fuck them you don’t see them as a challenge and walk off”

BANG right between the eyes! This was a staggering insight. I’m thinking he’s right. I only really go for the chicks that constantly shit test, who crave attention and validation and love drama. If they show less challenging patterns and I could fuck them, I walk.

He then mention an ex FB I had who almost became a GF “What about HBNurse you had as a fuck buddy, she was a complete drama queen, and yet you loved her shit-tests, constant drama and the fact that she framed herself as the prize. You loved dealing with the tests, creating your own drama and all the conflict and framing yourself as the prize, it was a real battle of wills and you both loved it”

I thought I was in this to fuck the maximum number of women but in actual fact I have been playing a different game and finding excuses not to fuck perfectly nice and attractive women and going for a mad challenge with some kind of mad chick!

Even when I was in Manchester a couple of weeks ago I realise now that I found and excuse not to F-close a chick when I blatantly could have done so. In hindsight It’s almost like I didn’t want to do it, which I am surprised about.

I am going to reframe my whole game to the ‘if you get the opportunity for sex then take it’

You would be amazed at what the difference between a HB6 and HB9 are once you have had sex with them and are lying next to them in the morning!
Why do women look so much less attractive AFTER sex??

So I am now re-examining my goals.

They were previously.

Approach chicks and game them, play around get their numbers and K close them, and then probably not call them. Occasionally fuck one of them even though you know you could fuck more. Have a fuck buddy or 2 in the background so if you need sex you can have it.
Wait for a massive challenge to come along and then rise to it and game her like you have never gamed before.

They are now.

Approach chicks and game them, play around get their numbers and k close them, f close them and day 2 them or whatever it takes to fuck them. Under no circumstances must I bamboozle myself or find excuses not to fuck them. Build up a large harem of fuck buddies or MLTR’s.
Then wait for a massive challenge to come along and then rise to it and game her like you have never gamed before.

I can’t deny to myself that I like challenging women. This must be part of my overall strategy.

So finally my question to you guys would be, why are you in the game? What are your goals?

Do you game women to show off to your friends/fellow PUA’s when you have no intention of fucking them?

Have you ever found yourself finding excuses NOT to f-close a woman when you can?

Are you guilty of not calling chicks that pretty much had nothing wrong with them? Sex is sex at the end of the day, Woody Allen once said, ‘even bad sex is good’ this is true in my opinion so why behave like that?

Sometimes you can frame yourself as the prize too much and as a result will become arrogant and dismiss opportunities for sex. I regret this.

What kind of chicks do you go for? What’s wrong with the others?

Colonel

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Thanks Colonel!